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Today's gonna be a rough day....

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The day basically just started for me... My mom already had to give my grandfather morphin... he seems really weak. It was 7 when he called me in and he was still in bed... he's normally up and eating his breakfast no later then when my mom leaves at 5:30... I have a feeling the time is real close though... our dogs all followed me into the room and it was a pain getting them out... the 1 I had to carry out cause every time I opened the door she ran right back in. The 1 that normally spends all day with him stood at his door for at least a half hour yesterday barking cause nobody let her in after the hospice nurse left.... they say he had 2-6 months left but I don't think it will be that long... My aunt is coming Friday, is cousins are coming Saturday and sometime this weekend my cousins are supposed to come... maybe that's what he was waiting for... a chance for everyone to say goodbye to him. I don't wanna say goodbye though...
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Hi. Yes pets can feel when someone is ready to pass.. At least that is my view on it.. And I am sure your Granddad is waiting to say goodby.. You are such a great person to care so much about your Grandad.. I am sure he feels the love.. Love D
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yea... I know they can feel. They can feel any changes in you... if I'm upset they tend to stick by more or if I'm sick. It will be hard to see him go though... he is a special man, strong too and always tries to put a smile on your face and give you a laugh every once in a while...
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You are wonderful to give him so much love and I'm sure he's loved to be around his family and the pets have made this time easier for him. It's hard to go through this, it's great you have his sense of humor and his kindness and strength to think about :)
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yea I just wish he could go peacefully and he wasn't in so much pain!
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Today wasn't as bad as I thought it was gonna be except for he kept on getting confused. That seems to be pretty normal lately but he actually had it to the point where I was confused too... One more day down and I don't know how many more to go...
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I call this a waiting game and thank God for everyday he is still here but like you, it is hard to see him in pain. They changed my hubby from morphine to oxycodine cause the morphine made him so sick to his stomach. He just started on it today so I hope it works for him.
Our little dog (he died a few months ago) knew before we did that my husband had cancer. The month before they found it the dog would set on his lap all day and just stare at him. Before this he would set on hubbys lap in the morning then at night he was on my lap.
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Yes I do thank God for everyday he's here! It is getting hard though with seeing him in pain and just not wanting to go on anymore it is sad...
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I actually saw a story on the news about a dog that lives in a nursing home as a companion for the residents. The nurses noticed one day that when this dog would go in and stay with a resident for awhile, sometimes a couple of days, I think ,and would not leave them, that the patient passed while the dog was in the room and the dog would only leave after the person had died. He would lay on the bed by them and NOT leave til they did. This happened many times before they released to story. Makes you wonder..
Sweetie, I know where you are. My mom passed in May from brain cancer and she was in so much pain before the hospice people took over. I know how very hard it is to watch and hear someone you love hurt so much.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your granddad as you work through this very difficult part... God Bless...
Donna
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Thanks so much Donna... it's reassuring and scary at the same time knowing that she won't leave I mean I know he loves her to death and he'll happily pass with her on his lap but I still ain't ready for him to go... Thanks and God bless you too!
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