mother is starving herself, she knows what she is doing, i wont interfer by tube feeding or pills anymore to make her hungry, waiting for hospice to do eval and take over her care. now, what do i do? if my mom was mentally challenged in a way that i thought she had no clue of what she is doing i would over rule and ask for stronger appetite meds, but she knows what she is doing. she is tired, if there were a plug that i could pull, i would do it in a heartbeat. right now, i dont know what to do for her, the only thing that truly makes her happy is seeing the younger kids, grand kids and great-grandbabies, the only kids she sees is my stepson and 2 of my grand daughters, the others dont come and dont bring the kids. i am rambling, i so wish i could make my family understand how important it is for them to let mother see them and their entire families, but i have talked till i cant anymore to them about it. i try to spend as much time as i can with her, not as much as i want cuase i also have my dad, who has an list of medical problems as long as my leg, and my stepson that has autism. to be honest, i think my parents are holding out for eachother. one doesnt want to go without the other. it would not surprise me that when one goes the other will follow very soon, and it is honestly the best thing for both of them because they both suffer in ways i dont understand why God lets them suffer the way that they do. daddy has empyzema (sp?), oxygen 24/7, diabetes with the dr telling him he needs a leg amputated and he wont let them do it, congestive heart failure, he has more bad days then good, i am sorry i am rambling..just needed to talk about it. i just dont know what to do anymore, i use to could get things taken care of and everything be ok within a day of any thing that popped up, but this one, it started back in feb, 5 months ago, weird thing is my mom has not lost a lot of weight, about 15 lbs, it goes up and down between 160 and 180, i have a feeling though that will stop soon. i just dont know what to do anymore.
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