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So, to answer your question: yes I do out of honor and respect and setting an example but I would rather at time be alone. When I want to eat alone, I do.
Sometimes I eat with her but others I fix her something. She gets really upset with me about that.
She eats by the clock and I eat when I am hungry. I normally always eat diner with her but no conversation. It is like Bloveb said out of respect and honor.
Sometimes I eat with her but others I fix her something. She gets really upset with me about that.
She eats by the clock and I eat when I am hungry. I normally always eat diner with her but no conversation. It is like Bloveb said out of respect and honor.
Anyway, to answer your question: Though we do not exactly EAT together (Im trying to lose weight.), we are usually in the same room and chat. Its the one time that we can talk about something other than my dad and her condition. :o)
SIL is so food-obsessive that she brings her own dinner with her even if I'm having the exact same dinner LOL. Goofy.
Overall if we lived with them, I'd say we'd eat together if it was peaceful and felt good, but if there were bad feelings and it made a knot in my stomach while trying to eat, I'd eat separately.
The table and chairs issue, though, is one with which we also deal...not only uncomfortable for my mother but treacherous, since the height of both the table and the chairs (which are standard dining table/chair height) are too high for her...thus, she usually eats sitting in her rocking chair in the living room with one of those small wooden tables in front of her (except for breakfast, which she insists on having at the dining table), and I sit on the floor and eat at a very low table I've fashioned. We do indulge in a lot of dinner conversation...sometimes watch favorite programs or movies during dinner.
I'm relieved to see that we are not the only ones with dining table issues. After much research, since my mother loves using a dining table, I've just about decided to hire a carpenter to make a table and chairs to comfortable dimensions for her with an adapted seat for me. Even "therapeutic" tables and chairs are not low enough nor comfortable enough for her.
My guess is that, as baby boomers age, of which I am one, the furniture industry will adapt...too late, though, for my mother, I'm afraid.