its been 3 yrs since mothers stroke. some days are good others are not. here in the past 6 months or so she isnt eating enough, her weight goes up and down, she has went from 174 to 160 to 166 to 162, ect all this in just 3 months. i dont know why she isnt skin and bones, she never drinks enough. she seems so sad, and depressed most of the time. the nurse talkd to me about it and told me she thinks mother is just giving up. i dont blame her, if i could take her out of her misery legally i would have done it by now, but is she giving up or is nursing home making excuses for their poor care. here is an excellent example. mother cant use those huge water cups they provide, to big and heavy, we provide sippy cups for her, no kiddy designs so she isnt seeing it as a baby cup. they come in and fill the huge water jug(that i have thrown away 3 of them but they keep being replaced) that is on her bedside table, walking right past the cup we provide and explained her water needs to be in it, even used perm marker and wrote WATER ONLY on it, which is on her table that she keeps in front of her at all times so she can reach whatever she needs. the water jug they fill on bedside table, is on other side of room. my mom is paralyzed, she can not walk, she can not call for help, she can not use call light, she can not get to the fricken water. i have told them a dozen times and i think they do it on purpose. anyways, i dont know. seems like maybe she is, or they are. i dont know.
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