I moved in to my 89-yr-old grandma's house six months before she fell and broke her back. I was recovering from PTSD and needed a temporary place to stay. Both her children live out in the Western U.S. After she broke her back she stayed in rehab for 2 weeks. It was a minor osteoporosis fracture, her third in 7 years. I was planning to move out of her house, but when she fell, she needed me there, to help. I didn't realize the amount of help she needed. My question is, my aunt and uncle did not come back to MN to make any arrangements. Grandma's nurse called my aunt yesterday and asked her when she was planning to come to MN to talk about her mother's future. My aunt told me about this conversation, and said she was busy, and that she had other family she wanted to visit/be around. She said maybe she'd come out in the end of June. She said otherwise, she'd come in May and move my grandma out to her house. My grandma doesn't really want that. At any rate, I have no control over decisions/money, but my aunt was asking me to look into assisted living. Anyways I've done a ton of stuff and spent a lot of time, and I have to get my own job and take care of my own stuff. So what is my question, does anyone have any advice/comment on my aunt and uncle's behavior? My aunt is not a selfish person, I think she's being a little obtuse. But I know if my mom was still alive, she would have flown out to my grandma's just to make sure everything was arranged, and there were formal agreements made. This seems like they're making assumptions, because I was staying there before she fell. Before she fell I was doing a LOT, now I'm doing 4x's as much. Anyways I don't get it!
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