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I joined just last week and he's gone

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My husband's father moved in with us on October 6th. The week before the doctor's told him he had only 2-8 months with his level 4 cancer. He was walking, talking, and even working then. His walking got harder when he got here. The next week he couldn't move his legs, last week he could barely move his head. He started hallucinating Friday morning and just after midnight he passed away. His brother, my husband, and I were all beside him holding him until he was gone.
I'd like to think I'm doing better than I am, only because I'm "Ms. Do-It-All" to everyone. I cry when I'm not around my husband. I know that I have to grieve also but he's cries enough for the both of us, I'd hate to make him cry more.
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I am so sorry to hear about the death of our father-in-law. Death came so sudden from the sound of things. Which is a blessing sometimes, but also a real shock to family. Thinking of you and hoping that you take things one day at a time.
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I'm sorry to hear of your FIL's passing. It's comforting to know he had his loved ones with him. Take care. (((hugs)))
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I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. At least his last days were spent with the ones he loved and that he was loved in return. This is a blessing for many just to have someone there for them.
Take comfort in what you were able to do while he was with you as I'm sure he did.
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So sorry to hear about your loss. Your father in law was very lucky to have you and your family by his side.
I will be thinking of you and hope that your family can heal soon.
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very sorry to hear this.. I hope you will take comfort in knowing he was with you all.. Love D
mechellebelle
mechellebelle
so sorry for your loss. I hope you can take some comfort in the thought that you were there for him and that you did a good job taking care and providing support. that is huge. maybe your husband would feel comforted to know how much you miss your fil and how much he meant to you. maybe do whatever feels natural. hugs to you.
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