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My heart is broken and my mind is fried right now. I have to move my Mother out of my home. I am not proud of this and feel very guilty. But the truth is I CANT do it. My Mother is abusive and refuses to take care of herself or allow anyone to do it for her. For the last 5 months she has totally disruputed our home with her nastiness and abusive words. i can no longer allow this. I wrote another discussion (HELP)and got alot of good advice...but...still decided I needed to give it one more try. After a stop to the hospital and a breakdown I now realize that this is what I have to do. I feel like Ive failed.Last night she threatened to hurt herself and tried to roll herself out the front door.This I can not allow. And yet my heart feels broken in half and I am scared for her as well as myself. This will take every bit of strength I have and could use ALOT of prayers!
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You have to do what you have to do, and do it without guilt. I am sure you did not come to that decision lightly and for the sake of all your family, if you feel this is the best - then it is the best - for all concerned. I will keep you in my thoughts and I am sure things will turn out just as they were meant to... may just seem hard right now (OK things are very hard right now) - but you have to go with what is in your heart. Taking care of oneself can seem selfish, but it is sometimes he most unselfish act we can do.
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i dont know what type of a setting you are thinking of for your mom but in our state they cannot be placed in a nursing home until they are declared incompetent by 2 dr. it was very easy though, my dad was asked very simple questions and he did not know the answers to, like what year it is and things like that. the dr. then admitted him into the home. it was a hard decision that i struggled with for a long time too, but was something i had to do for my own well being. i am my dads medical power of attorney also so i hope you have papers signed to that effect for your mom. good luck to you, love judy
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Hi, If she rolls herself out again call the police and tell them she is a danger to herself.. and i think at this point she is.. Please to not have guilt you have tried your best.. when it becomes so hard that you yourself are having a breakdown then it is not working.. Please ask your father to assist you in some way.. he would be able to sign her in somewhere.. love D
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Oh, Dear Heart, how awful for you. You really did give it your best shot beyond what many might have done. You have to take care of yourself and your family first. I know it doesn't help for me to say that you have nothing to feel guilty about. You have to move her before she destroys all of you. We are with you!
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