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I know this is kind of a silly question, but have other caregivers lost some of their "friends"? I have done my best to stay in contact with my friends, but my time is so limited, I guess I have not done a good enough job. Many of my friends still contact me, but one in particular who has always said she was my "best friend" has turned hateful towards me. She yells and screams at me if I mention that I am tired. She wants me to put my husband in a nursing home and visit him "every 5th Tuesday". My sisters say she is not my friend at all if she acts like this and I know they are right, but I miss the good times we had together. I assumed (incorrectly) that she would be there for me in the bad times as I have helped her many times when things were not good for her.
Just want others opinions and comments on this.
Thanks,
kse
Just want others opinions and comments on this.
Thanks,
kse
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I'd feel bad for this person who was your "best friend" if she was having a bad day, say. But it sounds like she's not very happy, and that she's changed drastically for some reason. Whatever has done this, it doesn't give her the right to go on treating you like that deliberately.
If you have mutual friends, can you find out if she's doing this with them? Perhaps something is happening to her that is cause for concern.
If you know this is not the case, and it is her reaction to your own situation... maybe just say thanks and good bye, and let it be. Some folks don't have it in them to be there for you, for whatever reason, and we can't change each other. Best to forgive and go on, in my opinion.
Also, if you are frequently going to her for problems, maybe she is feeling overwhelmed...?
Tell the screamer contact you every 5th tuesday and you'll can talk then. Now is the time you need friends to support you and not give you added fustrations. God Bless you!
My Time Isn't My Own Anymore &
After Having To Pass On Several Outtings With Them,I Heard From Them Less & Less.
I Belive No One Wants To Be Reminded This Could Be Their Life Also.
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I sought my God, but could not see
I sought myself, but it eluded me
I sought my friend, and found all three!
When your frind is absent it is devastating! But you can still search for your God and yourself. And perhaps that is where you need to be. Life teaches us some hard lessons! That is where I am now. Absolutely alone. Me and God. Its time.
Do not depend on friends in your trials. Your strength comes from within you! If your friend supports you consider it a gift but do not expect it. The loved one you care for is formost in your heart. Forever in your heart! No power on earth will change that! If she is meant to be your "best" friend she will have to come to grips with that. If not you have to consider it another loss in your life. You will know! You may keep a lesser frindship in future. You will not forget.
My lifetime "best" friend is dying of COPD. She is on so many drugs I hardly know her any more! Never forget a friend is a gift and I think our job here on earth is to love them the best we can even when they let us down. I hope you and your friend make it through your lifetime.