I can only make comments to my limited extent in a few communities, and for sure, the caregiver role is a huge one for many in here. I deeply sympathize with caregivers, and the great tasks that loom so depressingly in many of our lives, and it is progressive to the point of near self-destruction in too many cases. When one does not have family around to help, it can be a terrible ordeal, especially for one person. Many things come into play, and the caretaker's life is too often sacrificed and almost taken away as being that supportive individual to have no fun or good times much if at all due to the demands of the afflicted. But LOVE is the driving factor, and neccessity due to no support otherwise, so the Good Samaritan role long term can nearly drive one into an early disease state themselves. Support is paramount in most of these cases, and the lack of it is very destructive to the sick and their caretaker as well if there is no relief, like in hospital shifts of workers. When you have to do it all at home, limited, and feeling hopeless, the throes of depression can certainly take its toll. I have two family members now to take care of, since my wife also became disabled last year. I depended on her so much in watching after our daughter, who has systemic lupus, and now we DO face an ever=greater challenge in that my wife is now chronically ill too. That leaves only me to handle much of the daily grind in keeping up with meds, doctors visits, paying the bills, my part time job,etc, etc. But pray a lot my friends, and come in here to vent with some fellow caretakers as we need each other. I think Doug did us a great service when he helped create this site. I have found other depression chats to be full of good and unfortunately some very bad ugly people who take pleasure in ridiculing the sick, vs. those who are thrust in major caregiver roles. So this site seems to have better quality people who exclusively help meet the need for some to hear and understand their plight. If nothing else, we can give hugss, offer our own support and love to whatever limited extent we can. I admire all of you who are put into such bad situations that sort of trap you at home, and limit your resources. Caretakers are Angels in a way, but even we are human, and need the support of others to get us through every difficult day. Yes, one day is hard to differentiate from another, and it's a 7 day job every day of every week. God Bless the Caretakers. I don't know a lot of answers, but I truly hope and pray God will give you and me the strength to handle the tough days ahead, that seem never-ending, but hopefully I pray all of you will take the time wherever you can work it in, to be good to yourself. I can only offer my praise, admiration and affection to recognize the fantastic roles you good Caretakers play. You are the Angels of the Earth, and we need more Angels. God Bless YOu all, and grant you mercy and peace. Goliad
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