Caregivers Support Group
A voluntary caregiver is a spouse, relative, friend or neighbor of a disabled person or child who assists with activities of daily living and assists those unable to fully take care of themselves. The challenges of a caregiver are unique and sometimes it's hard to find people to talk to who know what you're going through. Join the conversation and find others who...
I have been taking care of my 89 year old mother for about 4 1/2 years and she recently reached the point where she can no longer stand. She was in and out of the hospital, mostly in in the month of March with congestive heart failure and dehydration. She then got pneumonia while she was in the hospital. She then spent about 6 weeks in a nursing home for rehabilitation. That was a mistake. When the nursing home released my mother she was home with me for 5 days and I had to take her back to the hospital with pneumonia again. This time she got it from the nursing home. With all this time she's had off her feet she's gotten to the point where she can barely stand. The male physical therapists at the hospital have difficulty getting her to stand. There are many more issues than what I've mentioned here and I just need to talk about it. I'm interested in what any of you have to say about it.
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I understand what you are going through, my mother is only 67 but the doctors say due to life long health issues, she has is in the condition of someone in there 90's. It is a full time, heart breaking, rewarding stressful time. But we have periods of time she is unable to stand now. It is very hard all the way around. I hope you can remember to take a bit of time for yourself, though I have not successfully been able to figure out how to do that yet, I am working on it. That seems to be the first thing anyone tells me that I have spoken to about this. They remind me that if I do not take care of myself, I will have nothing to give to someone else.
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I too understand what you're going through. I've been caring for my Mom for 10 years. In the begining she was suffering from heart issues and it wasn't a 24/7 thing, but 1 year ago she had a stroke and then had another one this past January. Needless to say, it's been a very challenging time trying to take care of her and hold down a full-time job. Everyone will tell you to take time for yourself, but no one knows exactly how to accomplish this. All I can tell you is to hang tough and pray a lot.
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