Hi I'm Jane. This is the first time I've come to a discussion board like this with my problem. Guess I'm feeling overwhelmed and hoping maybe somebody can give me some suggestions to make life a bit easier if thats possible. My husband and I moved back to Michigan here to take care of my mother who had Alzheimers. This was 8 years ago, and she has passed away. My father is now 84 and lives next door. He depends completely on me and my husband. We clean his room, change his bedding..etc... My brother and wife and 1 daughter moved into my fathers house right after my mother died (susposedly to help) but they do nothing for dad. They have completely taken over the home and my dad is limited to his bedroom and the living room. My dad used to eat dinners at his home with my Brother but has since refused (for last 2 years) My husband and I have dad for dinner every single night, 7 days a week. He comes around 4:30 and leaves around 7 - 7:30. My husband and I only have about 2 hours together...thats it, no more. I am a strong believer in God and I know he has a plan but my faith is really being questioned. I'm beginning to feel so resentful towards my dad. My husband and I can't even have an evening to ourself. We have tried...but when we come home dad will call or just show up. When asked if he got some dinner he hasn't so I end up still preparing something. Are my feelings justified in feeling angry and resentful. I'm only 47 and this is my second marriage. We have been together for 10 years and 9 of those years have been taking care of my parents. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestion? and why do I feel so incredibly guilty about this whole situation? HELP please
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