Love them like there is no tomorrow, be there for them. The rest will fall into place!

I have had some similar thoughts over the years. Even when I thought I was doing pretty good I'd be told I was cold. I don't think I'm a cold person. I just think action speaks louder then words. Talk to them and tell them how you feel. Some people need to hear it from you. Don't loose loved ones for lack of a few words.

I agree with Pricilla but I also feel that you have to surrender at times. I am a woman of faith and I believe God can take all that I am not able to bear. The only way that I have been able to handle the most challenging times in my life is through Jesus and the LORD. It is important to understand that you can love someone like there is no tommorrow, however don't love them so much it can cripple them. I give thanks for the times that I have fallen and NO ONE but God was there. I learn two things, I can do it and I need and have the LORD with me at all times.

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One of the things that helps me is actually writing a list of priorities. It forces me to put eveything I need or think I ought to do on paper in front of me in any old order. Then I write it a second time, this time putting them in order of most important first. I have to MAKE myself put "Time for me" near the top, because if I don't, I will have nothing to give my loved ones when they need me. Then i can organize my week a bit better.

One of the best things I did was to finally realize I needed help/support. I was one of those who thought therapy/support groups was for the weak and/or people who had "issues" (ie: problems).
Well, a very dear friend of mine reassured me that I was NOT crazy and it was OK for even the "strongest" to say "I need help!"
Guess what...I took a step and i'm glad I did!
And I'm still NOT crazy now am I a weak-little-o'l wimp. :D
And I certainly feel a heck of a lot better than I did just a few weeks ago.

BTW, also getting "downsized"@work didn't exactly work wonders for my ego...but it turned out to be a blessing, because January was H*** !
You do have to realize your limits AND prioritize.
A lot of things really aren't that darn important in the overall scheme of things. :D

Thank you everybody for your posts...it helps me to hear all this. Hey, MLM....not only is it "OK" for the strongest people to ask for help, sometimes it takes more strength to admit that you can use help than it does to pretend you have everything under control.

Shatter, believe me, it does take more strength to say "I need help" than to say nothing....especially, when you feel like you're at the end of your rope!
I haven't had a good cry now in over a week! :D

Forunately, my "patient" (aka, Mom) was one of those encouraging me to seek support...she went through the "caregiver thing" with HER mother(Alzheimer's).
And it does help to talk...and laugh. :)