i am at my wits end with the nursing home, i try to be understanding but its real hard when you know certain things that happen are flat out neglect and the fact is, if you say too much too often, they can and will find a way to get your family member out of there. i had that happen once when i told the nurses and the administrators that they were idiots when they refused to c all ambulance when mother had second stroke, kept saying she was just depressed, iditos, i wasnt going to let her go back there anyways, but, before she was in the hospital a full 24 hrs they called and told me she lost her bed, yeah right, but anyways, i dont know what to do. the problems are usually minor, but sometimes they are major and i get afraid for her. the one and only reason i leave her where she is now is because of my dad, he can get to see her almost everyday where she is, i fi move her anywhere else, he would not get to see her but maybe once a month, i cant take them away from eachother. it sux. she has went 4 weeks, count them 4 weeks, refusing to eat atleast 50% of the time and when she does it, she eats no more then 20% of the food. the cna's kept it logged, but told no one, not the nurses, not me, not the dr, not the cat that hangs around back of the building! how can they not say anything especially when every one of them knew she has had to have feeding tube before and even marinol to increase her appetite. i know it is neglect, but if i call an advocate or lawyer, she will lose her bed, and to be honest, i dontg really care if i have to move her, but i just feel like no one should have to fear the family member having to move because someone turns them in for neglect. it happens everyday, in nursing homes across the country. what does a person do? like i have said before, when He is ready for my mother He can most certainly have her, but i cant let her starve to death, i just cant. i cant let her be neglected, i cant let her be abused, and i dont want to take her away from my dad, eachother is really all they have left. sorry, i just needed to let it out i guess.
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