Maybe they are very stressed.. Maybe they are hurting.. Maybe there whole family is dying.. Maybe that could be why..

is that what your problem is then

This shit again? FABULOUS!

I am sorry toots I will nevert reply again.. Love D

I think Toots is talking about the troll behavior.

I do have to say though, that today is one of those days when I feel very jeckyl and hyde myself. pms exploding all over the place.

the other day dh and I were in a large city, walking in a nice area, but there was this guy who was leering at us & leaning towards me, like he couldn't decide whether to take my purse or not.
my husband said later "yeah I shoulda told him "you don't want to mess with her -- take her purse and you have to take her down and then you get to keep her!" very funny.

I dont get ppl like taht either...If you cant be nice most of the time infornt of me then I finally get fed up w them and walk away...I dont know if these are ppl you care for or just family/so called friends. But sometimes WE need to just walk away form it and hope when we get back they are NICE again...WE can only hope, am I right ladies>!!>

PS Love the pic I felt like that today at moments LOL

i believe at times we are all like that, at least sometimes in our lives. but for being around people like that you either have to be understanding and compasionate or not be around them,,,

thanks for all reply .. and no toots it's not this crap again .. I asked because Diane is so very sweet here because everyone understands and is goin thru the same but on the other communities she is nasty as anyhting if someone doesn't agree with her. She also threatened that she would kill herself if someone reported her. I'm sorry this isn't normal behavior.
So again I ask .. why is it that she seems and comes off like a nice little old lady here and in the other communities in DS if you don't agree with her she threatening to kill herself and she curses you out and calls you an idiot if you don't agree with her feelings.

i felt this group and most in ds was here to help each other, voice or own opinions and learning, not going from group to group slamming others. i find this childish and made to hurt others.

YES THAT IS WHAT I THOUGHT AS WELL MOMMYBEAR. I THOUGHT THIS SITE WAS TO GIVE OTHERS SUPPORT .. IN SOME OF DS COMMUNITES THEY DO AND THEY DO IT WONDERFULLY WITHOUT BEING PUT DOWN FOR HAVING A DIFFERENT OPINION OR IS NOT PUT DOWN FOR POSTS THEY PUT DOWN. LOOK AT THIS COMMUNITY ..CAREGIVERS HAD HELPED ME OUT WONDERFULLY .. JUST BY READING OTHERS HAVING PROBLEMS AND THE ADVISE THAT WAS GIVEN TO THEM. BUT IN OTHER COMMUNITIES IT'S NOT LIKE THAT. IT REALLY DOES SADDEN ME ..THATS WHY I WAS ASKING WHY SHE'S LIKE THE WAY SHE IS
AND MOMMYBEAR ..IF YOU THINK I'M SLAMMING .. WELL I'M SORRY THAT YOU FEEL THAT WAY BECAUSE I DON'T THINK I'M SLAMMING ANYONE. I'M SIMPLY ASKING .. WHY. AND IF WHY IS SLAMMING .. THEN I THINK WE ALL DO THE SLAMMING

Here, just like in life we all have different points of view on different subjects. I have friends that I hang out with who I can not discuss certain subjects with or we would rip each others hair out! Online I think it's even easier to get mad because you don't really have that person connection. There are boards here that I couldn't go to because they are more "debate" oriented and it would drive me nuts. I don't know that it makes anyone two faced. It's just their opinion.

But there wasn't any problem here in this forum until you dragged it in.

(shakes head and sighs @ jackie )
go and read and you'll understand

If you can find a book, your library will have it "One Day at a Time in AL-Anon'. This is a great book from which to learn about transference. IE: transfer my grief, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, from me to you.
This does not apply just to alcoholics, it applies to anyone who does these things. "I am miserable so I want you to be miserable with me",'I am hurting so I want you to hurt too", this sort of behavior you have to learn how to handle because these types of people rarely change. If you are forced to live with one you have to adjust and above all learn to stand up for yourself and not let them control you or your moods. Give them a smile and say "how nice of you", show them they cannot get to you.
Please try to read this book. Remember God borned us all onto this earth as equals with all the same rights, but it is our own responsibility to stand up for our rights and protect them. It is your health this will affect in time if you let it and it is your responsibility to protect your own health and well-being, keep your self-image intact and in good order, above all else.

Thank you for the advice Hazel.. I have been transfering all my pain to others who do not deserve it.. i have no idea what got into me.. I will and have gone to al-anon and I will continue to do so.. your advice was needed and it will not be lost on me.. And she is right i am not always nice.. I have not always been nice.. I try to learn from my mistakes.. I find myself with tons of anger.. almost to the point of not even seeing anything good.. but there is alot of good.. and alot of good people.. D