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Robert was to sleep alot or he will just sit and complain about everything or anything?
If he want a glass of water he says that is what his caregiver is for yet he is able to get it himself has just gotten lazy and is putting on weight.
This last few days have been very hard for me. I've been real tired and feeling sick to my stomach a good deal of the time. I'm not getting the level of sleep I need to feel good when I wake up and both husband and animals have just been driving me crazy.
I can sympathize with what your going through with Robert, for the most part Neal will not do anything for himself, although most of the time I know it never occurs to him to even try. What is the most frustrating for me is that he won't do anything to help me either even though he can and after he sees me doing something he'll ask why I didn't tell him to do it for me.
Well last night I did tell him to help, I've had so much back/rib pain I could not handle doing the dogs by myself so all I wanted him to do was stand at the door and open and close it for me as I rotated them through for their potty walks.
That worked great with the first two dogs then he saw the stove needed some work, he never does the stove because he says he always kills the fire but last night he decided to open the door and blow on it instead of watching the door for me so when I did open it the two dogs I had pulled me inside so hard I ended up falling and hurting my back, knee, and arm even more then they already were and one of the other dogs got out.
I was just so hurt and tired and out of sorts I sat and cried for about half an hour, by the time I was back upstairs he'd forgotten about everything.
Being able to read about what others are going through helps me know that there is a place where I can vent. This week has been better and my hubby was able to volunteer 2 mornings in a row in my classroom (I teach 4th grade). This is the first time in over 5 years that he has been able to get out 2 days in a row. He will probably pay for it tomorrow.
My week was a little better thanks to a visit to the pastor of my church. I'm not overly religous, but it was so, so nice to just unburden some of the sadness of the direction of my husband's and my life right now. My pastor is such a good man and helped me see what he calls the humaness of God - the people who are there to help pull you up when you're down.
Life has been hectic lately. Alot of family on top of caring for hubby. Interesting thought: My Sister who is an RN was here for 4 day's. He only got really bad one time. She wasn't gone 1 hour and he started yelling and cursing at me. I immediately, put him in his place (I was mad) and pionted this out to him and he improved alot at least for a while until I had reminded him again. This make me wonder if he has more control than I thought. Other than that it has been a fairly good week. Oh, by the way Joe wants me to do for him also what he could do himself. That makes me angry because it is not helping him to get stronger when I do everything for him.
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