I just want to vent a little I guess. My mom has always been VERY hands on with her kids (me and my sis). Now I have a 1 month old DD who is the first grandchild. My mother breastfed both me and my sister (no other kids) so you would think she would be encouraging with my breastfeeding efforts. I feel like she is FAR from it. Before DD was born she told me CONSTANTLY how horrible BF was for her and how painful it was and how horrible all the leaking was. She also CONSTANTLY makes remarks how my aunt is still BF her DD at almost 4 yo. Now that is a long story but the short version is that she wants her DD to cry for her when she goes to her dad's for visitation. I have told her repeatedly I don't have any plans to BF that long (shooting for 1 year at the least and probably 2 years at the most) but she still feels the need to tell me often how "she better not see me BF at 4..." Well why the F*** is that her choice anyway... why should she care... Also when we brought DD home and she was her to "help" she tried to get me to give DD formula cause my milk hadn't come in yet and we were VERY stressed by the whole thing. DD ended up losing from 6lb 8oz to 5lb 13oz at her lowest... almost exactly 10% so while it is more than they would like the nurse said it was fine since she was so small she didn't have much to lose... and then the day after my milk came in she gained 4OZ!! Apparently my mom had a shot to bring in her milk when we were born and she was upset they didn't give me one. (i have never even heard of this before) She also is CONVINCED I should be trying to make DD go longer at night (up to 8-9 hours) and I can't convince her that BF babies need milk more often than that! I feed on demand.. if she wakes up I feed.. if she doesn't wake up for 4-5 hours I let her sleep but I am not gonna try to force a 1 month old to go longer than she wants... I just can't get my head around why she wouldn't want to support BF her granddaughter since it was important enough to live though the pain and hassle for 6 months for each of her kids!! BTW we have had a very easy time since my milk came in and I rarely have any pain and while DD's schedule is different every day we really have it VERY easy.
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