((((whitegold)))))) I cannot pretend to know what you are feeling but please know that you are just as lovable as you always were. When we get tired and worn down, we feel so hopeless. Let us carry the light for you until you feel strong enough to carry some, and you will.
Sending you healing prayers and prayers for your strength.
(((Hugs)))
EllaBlue

im so sorry u feel so bad, a woman can have no breasts, no womb and still be a sexy woman, true love is loving the person despite any missing body parts. yr hair will come back with time. would u really want a man who only wanted u for your breasts? hang in there girl it will get better i promise

I am so sorry you are feeling this way today. I know it is hard. I still have my hair, but have not only lost the breast but what they left is truly grotesque! I look at it this way : I am 53 and at this age, they are decoration only. When i meet a man i want to spend time with ( and I will) if he has a problem with my chest , then i dont want him, do i? I guess this is kind of the ultimate man test! And if my hair falls out? it iwll grow back. Randy Travis says ina song, that " I dont care, I aint in love with your hair, if it all fell out it.........." or words to that affect. I have actually started talking to a couple of men off dating sites and have said " I am 53, saggy, baggy and soon will have one tit and no hair, how do you like me so far" and they have ketpt writing to me. You are so much more than tits ans hair sis! hang in there, one boob beats being dead!

I agree whole heartedly a with Shaqua. Not many men over 40 are much to look at and I'd rather do without then seek out an old, impotent fellow that has to use Viagra. Many of them have their own cancer (prostrate) to deal with. Bottom line---if they're obsessed with boobs and baldness, who needs them!!!!!!!!

Hi,
Sigh..big sigh...I just joined this group..before I had breast cancer I wrote everyday on the fibromyalgia site...I so get where you are..if I weren't married I don't think I would even care about a relationship..I actually got married again during this whole cancer experience...and unfortunately we live in a world that doesn't look inside much anymore...It bothered me to lose my hair more than my breast..and I obviously wanted to live or I wouldn't have gone through all that really rough treatment...BUT..it is so hard to re-invent yourself...especially as a woman..I didn't want an implant or any reconstruction because I didn't want any more surgery...I'm still at the beginning stages of radiiation...my hair is just starting to come back...I am scared that it won't all come back actually...just a fear..I have six wigs but am really tired or wearing them and any kind of head covering...but even though I have a husband it is still lonely and sometimes it makes you wonder if it was all worth it...I have three grown daughters whom I thought I was close with...the oldest, 39 and the youngest 33 (they live close) just abandonded me...period..I haven't seen or heard from them since my surgery in June...I gave up calling and emailing...my middle daughter, 36, stayed close to me and also to her sisters...I flew through treatment because all I thought and cried about was the cruelty of my two daughters..they have decided that where ever I am on Xmas they will not be...no reason no explanation..so I understand how you feel...I feel this way too because of my family...I wish I could say to you that things will improve...I just know that most humans run away from anything that scares them...I work in medicine so I am used to many kinds of illnesses, etc...How long ago was your surgery and I guess I don't understand why your hair did't return...you are not alone...but it can all be very depressing...life in general regardless of whether you have an illness or not...I just think that we are living in very different and difficult times...I always think about the kids in Children's Hospital in Boston (not far from where I live)...they have so much courage...I so hope the both of us can hold onto something that keeps us here...I find myself just grateful for the birds in my feeder...imagine that...Susan

I can relate to how you feel. Breast cancer causes all kinds of fear. Especially when you are alone. I had a double masactomy 3 years ago this month. I had cancer in both breast. I was divorced, but in a relationship but he lived 340 miles from me at the time. You will get through this, and when you do you will be able to share your strength and hope with others going through the same thing. You can only get your strength through God and prayer. That is how I got through it. I look back and I had more peace in that time of my life than ever before. I will pray for you, It will be ok.

I'm not going to lie to you and tell you what to think or feel, because you will feel that way some days. And it's okay. I struggle with it. I'm married, but I don't have breasts or the other female equipment. I'm a shell of a woman. We've always had issues with our intimacy, but feeling like a freak certainly doesn't understand. I force myself to look at my body everyday, even though I hate it. It is what it is and I have to accept it. Try a support group if you can. hugs and prayers

I am truly sorry to hear how you're feeling! And after what you've been through, I can understand. I felt the same way 1 1/2 years ago when I had no breasts and no hair (and my husband has a long hair fettish and was totally not attracted to me). I also felt very alone and icky in my own house. The biggest thing I can say is at least it's all temporary. My hair is now down to my shoulders and I color the black/gray with brown and highlights and my reconstruction with implants is done. My boobs are now much perkier than they have been in the last 10 years. My husband still is not attracted to me, but I am much stronger than I was and feel good about myself. I only hope that after a little time, you can feel good about yourself, too. I always think that women are so much stronger than men and can handle so much more than they could.
My heart goes out to you and I hope you can have a nice holiday!
Vicki

Nooooo dead is not better. It is hard for us women that have lots thier breast and darn it why is it Ok for a guy to not have hair. Really I have had a really hard time with not having a breast, I can't even undress in front of my husband anymore. It has changed my hole life as it has the people closest to me.
Hang in there hun and try to love your self....others that are worth being with will see this and love you too. Just remember that you have people here that care about you. I will pray that with time your pain will heal and you will find the right person to be in your life.