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Breast cancer is a cancer that usually originates in the ducts or lobules of the breast. Symptoms of breast cancer can include a lump in the breast, a change in size or shape of the breast or discharge from a nipple. If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with breast cancer, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, and meet others going through...

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Can someone help me understand?

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I am a 32 yr old mother of 2 wonderful boys. I have been married for 14 yrs. Back in August 2007 I found a lump. Went to my doctor and he said I needed to have a Mammogram. My mammogram came back with a suspisious nodule. So they scheduled me to have a biopsy. And the strange thing is, I have a Cat that would not even come around and hang out with me, guess you can say she was in her own world. But after I found my lump she sleeps with me, she has to be near my chest and if i push her away I have found her sleeping above my head. I just find it strange that to have an animal that doesnt like to be held to pay such close attention to me weird. Anyway, talk about bad luck, because of my doctors appointments I lost my job, and my husband is not supportive of me what so ever. When I tell him I am scared all he tells me is go find a job. I have explained to him that with all my doctors appointments that it is going to be hard to find a job that will allow me to go to them. I have spent the last 2 yrs going to college to get my criminal justice degree. And I even find it hard to obtain a job. I have a sister that had cervical cancer and I have a sister that has leukemia. I pray everyday many times that my test come back neg, and my bad luck goes away. I had my biopsy done on Tuesday, and this is the first time since I had the test done that I have gotten to sit down and relax. So I guess my quesion would be Can a man be scared that they are in denial and why am I being pushed so hard, like I am unwearthy?
Any suggestions
deleted_user
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Where are you in the diagnosis stage? Where were you employed that they let you go due to doctor appointments? You know your partner better than any of us. What do you really think he is feeling right now? Am suggesting that you should seek support from social worker if diagnosis is in fact breast cancer. There were folks on board at the hospital where I had the masectomy and chemo to speak with family and offer a world of literature for support. Good luck and best wishes. I hope it all turns out for the best.
deleted_user
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I do tlhink men tune out because they are scared, When I was DX May 2006 My hubby took it really hard, Of course I was in shock and spent most of my time on the internet trying to find out all I could plus I couldn't sleep, When I would find something I wanted my hubby to read it and talk to me but he didn't seem interested, It reallly hurt my feelings, I finally just told him how I felt about is lack of interest, And he cried and told me that he was just scared and was trying not to think about it, OF course we as cancer people that is all we can do is think about it, That is why support groups and these sites on the net are so important, Hang in there a let us know what your dx is, Just remember a dx of Breast Cancer is not a death sentence, You will be depressed , angry and just warn out if ;you go through therapys, Just remember we are here for you!!!

sj
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It is scarey to even think you might have breast cancer. I had it in both breast at the same time, and it was one of the most fearful things I have ever gone through. It was so strange, my ex-husband seemed to take it harder than the man I was in a relationship with. In fact I am married to him now. I don't know if it was fear for him, or just some men don't seem to have alot of compasion. But the most important thing, is he stuck by me, and then married me. I know he loves me, he just didn't know how to handle it I guess. I don't know but I kept my feeling hurt through my whole ordeal. I think you have to find strength from, family members, and friends, and most of all through God and prayer. Who can ever understand why men react like they do. I have been married twice and still wonder what they are thinking.
Kath30Miller
Kath30Miller
It's been 2 years I've been fighting cancer and my husband was such a jerk during the hardest part. Unsupportive...I went to all my chemo by myself, alone...was judgmental and horrible. It took him a long time to accept it and he still struggles with the heart damage I got from chemo. Men are strange. I'm sorry you have to go through it this way. That's what brought me to this site. It's kept me going along with a cancer counselor to talk to. My prayers are with you. Take care
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