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X thinks he is perfect parent

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My x who has barely anything to do with his son for the past 16 years, calls out of the blue about once or twice a year and acts like super dad telling me how I have kept him from his son????? My door is always open he can take him anytime or call anytime,my mail box is also open for child support checks..LOL...He calls and promises my son all sorts of time with him then might pick him up once then he is a no show for months....arrrggghhh.....what really gets me is he blames me for my son's problems in school....it is my lack of discipline he says I am too lenient...it never crosses his mind that it could be his absentee father routine...in and out in and out...aaarrrggghhh...


KIM
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I feel for your son. I hope he is getting counseling. As for your x. Let it go in one ear and out the other.
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Why is it always our fault? Why can't the asshole's ever take credit what they have done? I guess its better to blame someone else than yourself. My stbx does the same thing. He calls every night to talk to my daugther and she refuses but its my fault because when she is with him she is fine but when she is with me she never wants to talk. Well hello when she is with you she has no choice and she has to talk to you. Will they ever get it? Hang in there.
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I am in the same situation in a way, except my son's time with his Father now goes to the OW. It is something I NEVER thought I would have to worry about with my x, but he has changed SO much since leaving us for her. He treats his son and the time he spends with him as if it's a chore. Very sad. The best advice I ever heard was actually from my lawyer. He told me that I can be as open and lenient as I want to as far as visitation, BUT no matter what I couldn't make the man be a better father. All I could do was be there for my son. I took that to heart. That is really all we can do. Good luck and just remember, YOU are the ONE that is there for your kid. HE is NOT. Do not allow him and his comments to sully what you do for your son. Don't buy into HIS game...take the ball back and go home to your boy. Worse comes to worse...when he makes a comment, just reply....BITE ME! It works for me! LOL. Good luck, honey.
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My ex originally was given only 8 days a months with our daughter (I got full custody). He called (and calls) ME "the Babysitter" and also screams at her meanly and deals me that /I/ am too lenient and need to be like him. I told him, I'd rather her be spoiled than TRAUMATIZED.

The OW (which is now his wife as of last weekend) very much liked by my daughter...but my daughter does not like HER FATHER. I am beginning to prefer she spend her "dad's time" with just the OW, since her dad clearly scares her.
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My ex originally was given only 8 days a months with our daughter (I got full custody). He called (and calls) ME "the Babysitter" and also screams at her meanly and deals me that /I/ am too lenient and need to be like him. I told him, I'd rather her be spoiled than TRAUMATIZED.

The OW (which is now his wife as of last weekend) very much liked by my daughter...but my daughter does not like HER FATHER. I am beginning to prefer she spend her "dad's time" with just the OW, since her dad clearly scares her.
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my dad used to do this to all four of us kids. he left my brothers at a basketball game downtown to hit the bars the time he did pick them up. My mom had to go down and get them. My ex did do this I stopped telling my kids he was coming after he called them one year and said he was sending 'Christmas money to mom to help with Christmas presents as well as telling them he would be there for Christmas and not showing up. I told him any further contact he had with the kids would be through his attorney. he was an alcoholic and out of control.
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cinder. this is the first time i have seen a post like yours.
That is how it was for my youngest daughter. I loved his wife, she was so good with my daughter. she took such good care of my daughter I always felt so safe when she was there
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