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X has child around xcon crackhead

solongbye
solongbye
I am so angry right now that I am shaking. My oldest son called me today to tell me that his "dad" picked up my youngest son for his weekend visitation with his sometimes girlfriend in the car. This piece of trash is an xcon, crackhead, or better known to people who know me as the PCW. Why on earth would any caring parent subject their child to such a "person"? Most of us go through life trying to protect our children from "people" that lead these kinds of lives. This thing is the biggest piece of trash you could find, I asked him how he would feel if I visited the local prison, picked up a crackhead and had him around our children. His answer was that he wouldn't like it.
This selfish "man" has admitted that the pcw will not be in his life forever, he himself called her a whore and said that he only uses her when he needs something. I try my hardest to raise my children properly, to have them know right from wrong. I work hard everyday so that my children have a nice place to live and do not need to be around this type. This same"man" is behind on his child support because he helps to support the pcw and her habits. He has now filed charges against me because our oldest child does not want to spend time with him, is it any wonder?
Everyday I am amazed at the selfish, inconsiderate, stupid behavior of this"man". I just needed to vent. If I had any idea that he would be so careless with my children I would have made sure character evaluation was part of my divorce agreement. I worry every visitation as to what my child is being subjected to. What is wrong with some people?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry, solong. Rage is the worst! I know there is at least one person on here who has no ex-cons around the kids in their custody agreement, not to mention the hardy no opposite sex sleepovers. Why not ask your lawyer to petition the court to modify your agreement?
solongbye
solongbye
i will be working on that. The state I live in is notorious for not putting the needs of the child first. This man was not even slapped on the hand for not paying child support. How will these children grow up with any sense of morality?
deleted_user
deleted_user
That's crazy. In my state, that is the standard. The court should be collecting his child support, his earnings should be garnished. If children don't come first, who does?

It must be very frustrating to lose control over the moral influences on your children. Fortunately, he has the example set for him by your elder son.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OH K. I am so sick just reading this post and the drama and trauma he is bringing to you, and your children.

He does not care if those boys eat, he is never at there sports events to cheer them on, he stolid the tent from your sons and that was just wrong those boys have missed out on camping because of him.

He is the lost one the man who has lost all intellect and his soul is scratched to the surface leech ate out ugly corrosive pain. His pain is being past along to you and his children, this is outrageous he is a below average human with poor functioning skills.

I am now very upset that you and those lovely boys have to see the dark side, bad seeds on this earth. K. I think that GOD is watching over you and them and he is not going to let anything happen to them, they are learning way to early about UGLY PEOPLE but maybe it is a lesson that they will never forget.

This lesson will teach your sons how to treat people as you have taught them, and how to love as you do them, YOUR THERE ROCK, YOUR THERE STRONG SUPPORT.

If your in there lives then they will be just fine, because you would not let anything happen to them that will hurt them. It is sad that man doesn't see how much his children need his attention, and love, but he is so empty he has nothing to give.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel your anger. I can deal with STBX's behavior toward me, but when it affect how the kids are treated, that's a different story. There's no getting even or making your point because the only way to do it is to punish the kids yourself by stooping to their level. Sometimes this has that '911 feel' to it, where they do their evil and then they are gone and there's no way to find justice. Anyway, sorry you're going through this.
solongbye
solongbye
I forgot to add that he has had my child around the pcw before. My child lied to me about it. When I asked him why he lied he said that his dad told him that"what goes on in your mother's house is her business and what happens at my house is my business." Nice to know that he approves of dishonesty from his children. Of course he has been dishonest his whole life and he wouldn't know the truth if it hit him in his crack infested head.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow. Asking your kid to lie. How low can you go? (Rhetorical question.)
deleted_user
deleted_user
You've raised your kids well. I agree with Love2Fly, they will learn from this. Kids are able to see things for what they really are. Hopefully they'll see the pcw and know which direction they DON'T want to go in. Most crackheads can't hold it together for very long so they'll see her for what she really is. Sorry he's such an ass.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Girl Friend do you need me to send over a pizza to your home to just have a huge round piece of comfort food in the house.... tell me and it is on the way, don't forget to tell me what kind, I see you as a meat lovers pizza lady...

SMILES TO YOU, I am off to

BE GLADLY SILENT
Thriver
Thriver
This sux. Can you move to a different state, or a little farther away so that you have fewer visitations?
deleted_user
deleted_user
id say im stunned but ya know im not he's an as*hole and an idiot AND thinks his kids r 2 stupid to know what she is. SO
how about going to your attoryney WITH your sons. The judge should listen to them and their opinions... and Im sure the judge would be interested in knowing the kids r around x cons! SHAME ON HIM
and if youre readinG this JUSTWANT2BEADAD THEN ACT LIKE ONE!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hew sounds like the typical ex/stbx all about themselves and do not care what damage they leave in there wake. In my state the only thing they care about is the welfare of the kids I am shocked to here that it is not like that in your state. I don't suppose you could get some sort of restraining order against this poor excuse for a woman. Only other advice I can give you is to talk to your son when he comes back from there and make sure he is very careful around his scummy girlfriend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey sista,

Once an asshole always and asshole.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are the kids mother and a mother should know where the kids are at at all times and who they are wound. I agree with loves2fly...Maybe this will teach the kids not to do drugs and go to prison...all they have to do is look at there dad's situation and say...I NEVER WANT TO BE LIKE THAT!!! Your x is a butt for letting these kids around this loser,poor excuse of a women. You would think that he would want his kids to be safe. I am so sorry that your going through this. I have divorced for 2 years now and it is truely the BEST thing I have ever done....
deleted_user
deleted_user
My x is also with a crackhead. She lost custody of her own two boys due to her addictions. He cheated on me with her and they moved in together a week or so after our separation in Feb. She's now pregnant with his child. Three weeks after our separation at our temp custody hearing, I asked that she not be able to be around the kids because of the trama they were already going through. He tried to have it reversed when our divorce became final in Aug. and that's when my attorney brought in the drug allegations and the fact that she cannot have unsupervised visitation with her kids. The judge immediately said that the order stands until further notice. X chooses NOT to exercise visitation because his girlfriend cannot be around them. The ONE time he exercised visitation in Sept., he violated the court order and I took him to court over it. I eventually dropped the charges (my kids were going to have to testify) on the condition that it didn't happen again.

My x would gladly allow this woman to spend time with our kids...maybe when she had them, she would go outside and smoke crack...or do a line of cocaine...or even offer one of teenagers something as she's been known to do in the past with other teens. Some people are just freaking idiots.
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