Eight.. you are NOT damaged goods.

We have all have taken a beating of our self-esteem.

We have to take care of ourselves...heal..feel whole again...and yes, we are all worthy of being loved by a good person.

Solong..my dog died 2 months ago... I suspect that great dog of mine held on ... he was there for me during the hard times..that was one loyal companion... great dog.

I miss the GOOD things. A shared laugh, a good snuggly, sex when it wasn't routine, sharing dreams, sharing coffee in the morning, having fun with the kids TOGETHER.

But the BAD things, the fights that left me in a no win situation, the lack of respect, the controlling nature, sex when it was just a service call. These give me pause.

When push comes to shove I want to love again, but I plan on being more choosey and setting clear expectations and boundaries for both of us to have a healthy relationship.

only if it was a truly amazing evolved honest morally conscious committed positive attractive funny smart sweet strong sexy person....hmmmmm probably not

when pigs fly

For 14 months I swore I'd never even consider it, then I Met someone that is the exception. I would Consider her, for sure. Maybe some day down the road, like 2011

Yes. I would. I will. When, I don't know. I won't set a time line - for fear of being too fast, or too slow.

Call me crazy, but when i was a child, even into my early twenties, I believed in the idea of a soul mate, that God had planned on someone for me. In college, I saw the illogical side of that, and stopped believing. Is tarted dating someone. We got married. We rushed into it - and now, I am divorced.

I know a lot more about myself now. I'm still not necessarily convinced in the idea of a soul mate, but I am convinced that there is someone out there for me, someone who may not be perfect, but is at the very least, almost perfect for me.

Perhaps I am naive. Perhaps a hopeless romantic, but even though I failed in one marriage, I don't believe I will fail in another - for the simple fact that I won't let myself. I won't rush into it. I won't lose my head over it. I will know when it is time, as will she. We will be married, and I will fight everyday of my life for that marriage to work.

In my first marriage, that has now ended - I fought hard for the first six months, and she did not. Over the next two years, we both fought at one point or another, but never at the same time. The last six months, she tried to fight - but again, we never did at the same time.

I will play this game again. I will make it work, because I will fight. I will have a strong marriage. I will have children. I will have a home, and I will live. I will love. I will learn, and I will play this crazy game again.

Yes...I do want to get married again. I liked being married...just not to my x. I think that I've already found my soulmate...he's the total opposite of my x and is completely devoted to me. Don't know when or anything...and I want to get this settlement issue behind me before I take the marriage step. I'm very lucky because my bf understands.

A big, hearty, heartfelt NO!

I was married and my husband died 10 years ago. He was a great man and I trusted him so much. I had said if he had ever cheated on me I would have never been able to trust another man. I trusted him that much.

I recently left a relationship of 8 years. It was phyically and verbally abussive for this last year and a half. Eventhough, I have been hurt very bad I would definately get married again, if I found the right man. I loved being married. I know I have a great heart and I hope to one day find someone to share it with.

No at this time in my life I am not the least bit interested in being instutionalized (married)again. I too was completely and utterly in love. Faithful without the least bit of remorse. I am afraid to give of myself that completely again. To trust sooo completely. Though it is against everything I believe in and the way I was raised I don't think I will be able to be a "divorce virgin".
But never will I give of myself like I have to this unworthy man.

It seems like when you get right down to it, almost everyone wants love and companionship. I feel so discouraged at the heartbreak relationships bring. I'm an optimist by nature though.

After all I have been through this past year my answer is not no but HELL NO. Not anytime soon.

yes To love you must risk all love is worth the risk.

I keep buzzing buy this post but feel drawn to it for some reason. Would I marry again thats a good question, to me you took your oath and vows under the house of god. Therefore you should stay with that person forever. I dont know I would be so devastated that it would be a really hard choice to make. Maybe if the woman felt to be right for mebut I just dont know. But I have never been married brfore so its a good question for me to ask myself I think.

that's a good question...i ask myself that all the time..and i think in the end i would give it a second chance...butnot sure i'd ever change my name again....and he'd have to be one hell of a guy!!