I agree with you. No matter how bad things could get between me and my ex, she will always be my kid's mom and I will always respect her role in their lives. Maybe after YEARS of marriage it might be appropriate to bring an OW to a teacher conference, but doing it now is over the line.

Kinoka - I do not think you are being irrational. I do think it is a bit tacky.

Forgive me if I cross the line here. As an educator - I see so many children of divorce who have dad's that NEVER even bother to have any involvement with their children's education. At least he is showing an interest in your children and his parental involvement shows the kids that dad values education.

The family pics with a GF? ouch - I have been there. It hurts. My first EX ( who left me when I was 4 months pregnant) brought th woman he left me for th the hospital 6 hours after I delivered our son. While this bothered me, as do many things she has said and done over the years, I had to accept the fact that no matter what I thought of this woman, she would be a part of my children's life. I had to swallow some pride and pray that she would show them love and accept them.

BIG HUGS FOR YOU FRIEND!

CLARIFICATION: I mean that it was tacky to bring her!!!

I think that this girlfriend and your ex are creating an atmostphere of instability for your children...so she is not "playing mommy"...what happens to these children when she becomes ex-girlfriend???? Have you spoken to your husband about this?

I am a chlid of divorsed parents when I had confrences my my mom and my step dad and my dad and step my would come to confrinces and at first It was ok but then my step mom crossed the line and said somthing in front of my teachers and everyone else and it imbarressed me so bad because I had never said that I didn't get along with the person she was talking about so after that just my parents came. I have also been to a parent teacher confrence for a boyfriend that I had and his sons mother wasn't involved in any of his school thing I went because my boyfriend at the time couldn't go and I was the only one there it was weird. I hate my step mother she is also the reason my parents divorsed I also still kinda hate my dad for what he did to my mom. But now I have got my revenge because My step mom cheated on my dad like my dad cheaten on my mom and now thwy are divorsed and he is along

Revenge will come to the ***** so don't worry and tell you ex that wasen't cool at all

I don't think it was right for him to bring her to the conference and to ask for a seperate conference at that. He should have at least let you know what he was doing instead of going behind your back. Yeah it is nice that he is involved in the kids schooling but really I still think that the parents should be at those kind of meeting without the thrid wheels. On the other note would he have been just as upset if you had done the same thing?

I would be angry about it just for the reasons you stated. My stbx wants to bring his girlfriend to our daughters wedding next week. What's with these guys!

Hmm, yes, that is awful. At the very least they could have told you what they planned to do.

Well, my ex was getting his new gfs son to call him dad after 3 weeks, so there are crazier people out there, if that helps.

They are trying to legitimize their relationship by bringing her to what should be a family affair. Why on earth these selfish people do not consider the child's feelings is beyond me. I would guess that she is insisting and he is allowing her to push her way into your children's lives. She is also the one that cut your daughter's hair isn't she. she goes way over the line and he is not man enough to stop her. The children will resent her and she will get what she deserves, so will he for his choices.

Kinoka, I understand your anger 100% and unless he is VERY serious about this woman(living together for over a year, engaged or married) then she has no place at a parent/teacher conferance. He was way out of line and she sounds a little loopy as well....with the call me mom thing.

As far as your ex asking to have one at a seperate time(if it was impossible for him to show up during the timeslot), I think thats ok b/c its important that both parents stay active in the child's life.

The children love there mom and dad no mater what. I was divorced in 1993 and at times it still messes with my feelings and I divorced her and not for another woman.
My ex NEVER pushed any of her BFs on to the boys and included me in on any of the important matters that involved the boys.
Divorces are very hard on the children and the one who never wanted it:-(

To "Would You Bring..." Not only NO, but HELL NO. That is terribly inconsiderate of his children, you, the teacher, all involved!!!

Three weeks after our separation, x wanted to start bringing his gf around the kids...actually argued with the judge as the judge looked at him like he was an idiot. My x has my son's dirt bike(birthday present 2005) and hunting rifle (Christmas present 2006) and refuses to return them...saying that he'll be able to use them when he comes to his house. Dad and I have now been separated for 10 months, divorced for 4 months and the kids have only been to his house TWICE and once was only for 15 minutes. Anyway...still has son's stuff. When x and I were arguing about him returning son's stuff, I could hear OW in the background going crazy screaming about the dirtbike (before she lost COMPLETE custody, she had visitation with her own two boys and had even told the oldest that he had a dirtbike at his new house with her...the kids' grandmother told me about it)...I told x to tell her to stay out of it and shut up as she had NOTHING to do with my kids! She must have heard me on speakerphone because she then gets even crazier and louder. X told me that if I didn't shut up his gf was going to slap the f out of me. I told him "tell her to bring it on...I'm sure she'd love to add assault charges to the troubles that she already has!"

We still don't have the bike or the rifle but the judge has said that x was to return any of our belongings to us...I am confident that when my attorney and I press the issue, the items will be in my son's possession once again.

Sorry but I think gfs need to know their place...it can be as a caring adult...but it's not as mama...and it's not their place to get involved in ANY issues between mom and dad as parents.

I agree. Not sure what it is with OW. My ex's OW came to soccer games and was taking all of these opictures of the kids. Yuk.

I think they are trying to "dig in thier heels" on thier new "territory". It's way beyond frustrating and it is innapropriate. About what you would expect from the OW..or she would not be the OW.

My guess id the the teacher seees this stuff for what it is. One of my son'
s teachers father left for another woman. She has been very supprtive and compassionate. My other sons' teacher is Divorced. Also compassionate.

The only people that they make look bad is themselves.