
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time. think positive... at least he's been honest with you. you know how he feels and you can cry... and move on. my ex is keeping me "hanging on" to hope. he tells me he is very sorry that he is loosing me, and at the same time he goes out to his "friends" and doesn't come back till late at night.acting like any single person with no commitment in the world. this makes it very difficult to me to accept it is over.I keep clinging to hope.
I believe you should do your crying and move on, but be sure it won't be easy.
She kept pushing me away and she finally admitted there was someone else. I asked for a divorce because she was more interested in preserving her new relationship than working on our own.
I wanted to know the reasons why she threw our relationship away and she started bringing up things I did when we were kids. I had to remind her that we were both immature and she did all of the same things to me. The bottom line is I felt she was reaching for any excuse to justify her neglecting our relationship. She just wanted whatever she wanted more than what was in our best interest. Don't believe all that junk about you being some angry person. Alot of us are provoked by our stbx's and they neglect to say I know that they did ....and thats what made you so angry. They always prefer to paint a picture of you as someone just walking around waiting to be upset at any little thing.
People always want what they cant have more than what is readily available. If he knows how much you want him, he feels he can test this new thing out and if it doesn't work he can come back to you, apologize promise to be better and you will take him back.
They have already taken your heart don't GIVE them your self respect. The right thing does not always feel right. Let them go you will respect yourself for standing up for what you want in life. It will not be easy but he doesn't respect you now. If you are strong and stand up for what you want the both of you will respect you and chances are he will try to come back, then it will be YOUR decision if you want to pursue a relationship with someone that pushed your feelings to the side.
My solution was to force myself out of my comfort zone. I made new friends, found new interests, etc. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, especially since at the time I had no self confidence whatsover. I know it sounds cliched, but it really helped. And one day, in the middle of discussing yet AGAIN, why our marriage was so screwed up...I realized that it didn't matter. I'd be better off without him. For me, it was an epiphany. Nothing was the same after that moment.
What I'm trying to say is that you deserve better. You need to concentrate on what lies ahead for you, and realize that although you might have to cut your losses, you'll be better off without someone who says he doesn't need you... And you will be. That's the great thing :)
I don't feel alone anymore. now I know there are people out there who understand me.
it is very dofficult to admit to my friends and family that I still want him back. I feel ashamed of my feelings. they can't undrestand it after all that I've been through. so I play the hard one and put on a brave face.
so I'm pleased some of you have felt like this before and still were able to turn your lives around and start a new life. that means there's still hope for me.
thanks for your support
It is called, "LET IT GO" by
T.D. Jakes.
Your friend,
Lisa
abusehurts
ITS NOT YOU,WE CANNOT CHANGE OTHERS and their warped views of the world.
Remember,no one can make you feel inferior without your consent
You deserve better.I'm here for you!
I totally understand your physical reactions, stomach in knots, can't breathe, hard to function, hard to walk and talk, hard to look others in the face. Know it will get better in time.
We are all here for you.