I always noticed that and always thought "not us", we'd not be That way.

and now they know more about you than anyone else, and can easily become your Worst enemy and nightmare

I know- along with losing your mate and confidant you lose your best friend. It just isn't the same- even going to the store is difficult- I go past his favorite foods- Neuman's Peach Salsa and go to pick it up and realize- oh I don't need to buy that now. The comfort of the daily routine- even when it had gone bad- just knowing he was there. It's going to be a long lonely journey, last night after he moved out-even though there is some sense of relief and peace- it seems so final. I cried myself to sleep. I miss his presence even though we wern't speaking.

your welcome, (couldnt resist)

Doesn't make you stop and ask: "how deep was our friendship to begin with?".

I hear how people can be friends after divorce and while I guess I think its great, I personally think its really a bunch of BS. Maybe it' just that I could never do it...

i have to second what tp wrote, i have the exact same feelings, i would tell him everything, now it's sad that i share nothing with him. but, i have all of you and i'm so very grateful. thanks.

I said the exact same words to my H, you were treating me worse than a stranger. It's so hard not to be able to share things with H.

I too am very grateful for DS. I don't know where I would be today, if I hadn't found DS.

Good post tp,I know how you feel.
My STBX was also my best friend and I shared everything with her.
In the aftermath of her affairs and leaving, I have lost touch with the friends I did have due to depression and I have no family so I have no one in real life to share with.

I feel as if I have lost my best friend also. If it was not for this site I don't know what I would have done in early stages of the seperation. I want to thank everone who has reach out to me and help.

About a month before we broke up-My daughter and I saw a calf born at the fair-It was great everone was lughing and cheering-I even choked up a bit watching this calf take its first breath-I called my X and he said why are you calling me? If you can't share a moment like that with your husband-you should not be married to him.

I know exactly how you feel. It hurts. I remind myself that time is going to lessen the feeling of loss and new experiences will replace the old. I just keep trying to fill the void in as healthy a way as I can. I am normally very quite and shy and have been trying to be more social because I feel the need for other people, even just passing remarks help to not feel so cut off.

You know TP, I felt like this too, my best friend in my life and in my future is gone. Now calming down a bit, getting out of the emotional gunk, what I'm seeing is that our relationship really grew into this fabulous friendship, but as there became just a few bumps in the road, I thought I still had my friend - but now I'm thinking, I don't know that he felt the same way about me, after just the smallest bumps. He didn't tell me everything, he didn't tell me his feelings or his hurts, if he didn't lie directly, he would omit the truth, or misdirect the intention of his words, so that the truth was not evident and he won't have to lie. His behavior got deplorable - not what marriage is about, even if there was no affair - or maybe there was - who knows the truth. So in my reality, now looking at things a bit more objectively, I think as it became I was the only one in the marriage, I was also the only one in the real friendship too. His departure from both the marriage and the friendship happened much before he physically left the house. It's sad, I know :( So sorry.