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Work over Wife

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Anyone out there have a similar situation where their husband loves his job more then his wife? Mine does, although I think there may be an affair going on. Getting legal separation. Signing those papers in 3 weeks.

I feel terrible for my kids. Ages 7 and 10. They feel like they are loosing their family even though their Dad is still a big part of their lives. It's so hard to stay strong for them when I'm falling apart.
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sounds like my situation. my STBX always put his job 1st. Walked out one day after a huge fight. Went to his parents house stating he had to do it to "save our marriage". Few days later I found out from our neighbor that my STBX was telling everyone we were getting divorced. He filed for divorce exactly 3 weeks after he walked out.
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My STBX was a better husband to his job than me. Work ALWAYS came first. I begged for him to take days off only for him to spend it on the phone with work. And he says that I am the one with the problems. Funny part, he is having an affair with a co-worker.
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Yep, yep and yep. STBX actually was working today and then came home and said, ' you know that I've been doing two jobs at the same time? Well they are paying me an extra months wage ' I replied 'So do I get some sort of compensation money out of that seen as it contributed to the demise of my marriage?' He just walked away.
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I was told that a lot of people at his work were getting divorced so he would not have any problem finding us a mediator, and I said to him, what does that tell you about the company you work for. He didn't say anything which is what his MO is. Silence. I'm sure STBX is having an affair with a co-worker.
Yes he also said I did not support his career, yet I enabled him to do everything he did while I took care of the rest of his life. Yeah, I'm pissed off.
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Poor kids, I do not know the pressure a divorce puts on kids, my parents were together till my dad passed. No One in my family gets a divorce, but apparently that is what my husband's family does, he mom has been married five times. I would put a private investigator on your husband to check for the affair? If your husband is not having and affair,and still loves you, it could work.
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My stbx always put his job first. He worked away for three weeks and was only home 5 days. When we went on vacation he always found some way to stay in contact with work. I supported him and tried to be understanding. Apparently he wanted something different so he went out and got it. My 7 year old thinks he doesn't have a father anymore. The stbx thinks nothing has changed. Go figure!
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