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wondering what he's doing

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A customer invited me out to dinner tonight to cheer me up and I thought husband might seem me not moping. But found a note on kitchen table, his first communication in 8 days, saying he was going to London, might stay at his mums and so I might want to lock doors when i went to bed. Now my head is full of questions - who has he gone to London with, is he seeing someone, is he planning to spend the night with someone. He only goes to London usually to see his mum or best friend - and if he was seeing his best friend he would stay with him.
And none of it should matter because he is leaving me so wether he has met someone else or not shouldnt matter because I have already lost him. And he sure to hell wont be wondering about me.
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Sorry you are going through this! It really sucks when all this crap runs through your mind, but it will get easier one day. Hang in there!
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Try not to let thoughts of what he's doing entering your mind. go out with the customer and have a good time.
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I can't stop thinking about what he is doing when he is not with us. most of the time I am ok, but he borrowed the suitcase for a "business" trip and now I am obsessed about where and who he is going with. On top of that he emails me - what are you and the boys doing this weekend? I told him "it doesn't matter". I'm trying to stop thinking about him but it is SO hard to be 3 people in the house instead of 4 after 15 years.
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I know it's hard. I was married 23 years--but I know I have to keep busy and put him out of my mind. You can't let him continue to have this type of control over your mind. Of course--this is a case of do what I say and not what I do :)
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Stop racking your brain. Everything done in the dark will come to light. Rest peacefully tonight.
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I sooo know the feeling. This is on my profile:

Be patient with all that is unresolved in your heart And try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek for the answers that cannot be given, for you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now, And perhaps without knowing it, you will live along, someday, into the answers.

We can ask ourselves a million questions and if we knew the answers, would it fix anything? Let's try to rest where we are. Hugs~~~~
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