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I don't know alot about divorce but I guess I need to learn. Can the judge say you have to go to counseling or something of that sort. I am just wondering because I think counseling would do me and my husband some good but he won't go. Any help on this subject would be great. Can the judge order anything else that could help the marriage?
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I've never heard of that happening. Usually, they just approve the division of assets and custody of the kids. I have heard of them requiring counseling for the sake of the kid's when there is a nasty custody dispute. Most states are now 'no fault' states which means all that has to happen is one person says they want a divorce and that's it. Or at the most the couple must live apart for a period of time.

Personally, I wouldn't play the divorce card unless you mean it. It could backfire on you.
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well I would never play that card. That is the last thing I want but it seems to be what he wants so I was only wondering. I don't know what to do. Neither of us can afford divorce so do we just sit and wait?
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I doubt any judge would order counseling, both you and your spouse have to want to go and get results for it to work.
For your own self, go to as much counselling as you think will help you. I have and still continue to go, it has helped me a lot. I'm still going to be divorced (her idea) but at least I understand things now.
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In the state of florida it is only required to go to a parenting course if yo have children and I believe a four or six hour crash course on divorce. Just one of those requirements to get more money out of you through the state.Those are the only requirements here that I know of. No counseling, Sorry
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