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As I walk this land of broken dreams
I have visions of many things
But happiness is just an illusion
Filled with sadness and confusion

What becomes of the brokenhearted
Who had love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe

Fruits of love grow all around
But for me they come a tumbling down
Every day heartaches grow a little stronger
I can't stand this pain much longer
I walk in shadows searching for light
Cold and alone no comfort in sight
Hoping and praying for someone who cares
Always moving and going nowhere

What becomes of the brokenhearted
Who had love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Help me, please

I'm searching though I don't succeed
For someones love there's a growing need
All is lost there's no place for beginning
All that's left is an unhappy ending

Now what becomes of the brokenhearted
Who had love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
I'll be searching everywhere
Just to find someone to care
I'll be looking every day
I know I'm gonna find a way
Nothings going to stop me now
I'll find a way somehow

What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind, maybe
Oh yeah
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed
What becomes of the broken hearted.


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Does anyone, particularly the children, actually "win"?

I would not call it winning,

I would call it surviving!

Just as long as I do not get voted off the island!!

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#2

I don't believe they do in the short-term, or through any 'battling', I think (and hope) that everyone comes out a more enlightened person(s) and the experience adds quality to their future life.

So, the long-term picture (I believe) is that everyone can "win".

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I very much believe in Winning.

It is a Win if you find yourself, at the end of this, with your dignity intact. If you can look back and not be ashamed of your actions. If you are still able to hold your head high.

Yes, a Win is Necessary. They cannot do this.

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"They" ?

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They=Those who Left. Those who threw away what was freely given to them, and much cost to Us.

They=Those who showed their true colors in the Way that they have lied, cheated, hidden assets, carried tales...you name it.

They=Those who had No Concern or Care for their children.

THEY lost before they even started. It may take a very long time, but eventually They will have a time where this hits them.

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#7

I only been married once.

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A song about 'winning', a nice song but....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xK3mVxGfzPY

I don't wanna talk
About things we've gone through
Though it's hurting me
Now it's history
I've played all my cards
And that's what you've done too
Nothing more to say
No more ace to play

The winner takes it all
The loser's standing small
Beside the victory
That's her destiny

I was in your arms
Thinking I belonged there
I figured it made sense
Building me a fence
Building me a home
Thinking I'd be strong there
But I was a fool
Playing by the rules

The gods may throw a dice
Their minds as cold as ice
And someone way down here
Loses someone dear
The winner takes it all
The loser has to fall
It's simple and it's plain
Why should I complain

But tell me does she kiss
Like I used to kiss you
Does it feel the same
When she calls your name
Somewhere deep inside
You must know I miss you
But what can I say
Rules must be obeyed

The judges will decide
The likes of me abide
Spectators of the show
Always stay in row
The game is on again
A lover or a friend
A big thing or a small
The winner takes it all

I don't wanna talk
If it makes you feel sad
And I understand
You've come to shake my hand
I apologize
If it makes you feel bad
Seeing me so tense
No self-confidence
But you see
The winner takes it all
The winner takes it all


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There is no "winner" in a divorce except in cases of abuse. Otherwise, everyone loses ... particularly the kids.

I now have peace of mind, but I definitely did not 'win'.

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#10

Spoken like a true 'big' :-)

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i cant believe i will not see/raise my kids on a daily basis

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#12

It's tough but you got to.

I went through it, it was hell, but there is light... a strong positive light at the end.

They will not always be 'kids'.

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I didn't win but I do know I have become a better person having gone through these terrible experiences.

I said that I "won" not because of the divorce but from a horrible night I had and recovered from. None of us "won" in the divorce. For the last 11 months she has tried to destroy me and for one night she almost did just that. I woke up the next morning and realized she can't beat me down as a father/man/human being. I did win!