
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Thank you for posting what I was thinking!
But that instinctual urge to shut down emotionally does more harm than good. A hot stove will always burn but love has many forms, some of which may hurt but a lot of which may heal.
Love is essentially a risk and we just need to decide who is worthy of that risk. Building walls around the heart won't prevent you from getting hurt again. It will only change the source of pain from people to walls.
Emotional pain is no different - once we experience emotional pain over a situation, the same pain avoidance instinct makes it really hard to go into the same situation again.
1) Being self serving or on the other end of the spectrum, self-preservation.
2) Due to the damage inflicted by another in the past, you want to protect yourself. Its only a natural response.
3) Same, as #2, but you have to forgive and move on. We are not meant to be alone. There is some one out there worthy of your trust. That you can believe in.