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Why is it so hard to accept that your stbx is living with OW?
A little background for those that don't know my story: Stbx had what started as an emotional affair with our babysitter. It led to more and more phone calls, time together, etc. Of course, he would always claim they were only friends. This went on for 2 years, and now since stbx moved out in August she is always at his apartment when our son is there. So I'm almost positive they are living together. My stbx has had affairs before, and has only officially admitted to one. But it was the same thing - he would always tell me they were only friends, just the same lies.
He spent the last 2 years trying to brainwash me into thinking that him and babysitter were only friends. I, of course, always felt different - and my gut feelings are rarely wrong. Anyway, I had thought I had accepted the reality that they were a couple, but for some reason I am having an impossible time accepting that they are now living together. The hurt is just too deep. I realize what a jerk he is. I know I am going to be better off. The way I'm dealing with it right now is trying to put stbx out of my head completely. I have to still talk to him simply because we have a child together.
Is there some way to just accept the reality that they are living together????? Every time I take 2 steps forward, I fall about 4 steps back. I know I have control only over the way I react.
A little background for those that don't know my story: Stbx had what started as an emotional affair with our babysitter. It led to more and more phone calls, time together, etc. Of course, he would always claim they were only friends. This went on for 2 years, and now since stbx moved out in August she is always at his apartment when our son is there. So I'm almost positive they are living together. My stbx has had affairs before, and has only officially admitted to one. But it was the same thing - he would always tell me they were only friends, just the same lies.
He spent the last 2 years trying to brainwash me into thinking that him and babysitter were only friends. I, of course, always felt different - and my gut feelings are rarely wrong. Anyway, I had thought I had accepted the reality that they were a couple, but for some reason I am having an impossible time accepting that they are now living together. The hurt is just too deep. I realize what a jerk he is. I know I am going to be better off. The way I'm dealing with it right now is trying to put stbx out of my head completely. I have to still talk to him simply because we have a child together.
Is there some way to just accept the reality that they are living together????? Every time I take 2 steps forward, I fall about 4 steps back. I know I have control only over the way I react.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
As many women here have said, you should have in your custody agreement, no sleepovers with opposite sex non-spouses present. You do not want your child hanging around with whores as it will cause untold future damage in their opposite sex relations.