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why is it?

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Why is it that when the STBX's don't get what they want...they IMMMEDIATLY have to start lying about shit that never, ever happened? I mean why is it that people just cannot move on after a split up and let stuff go?

I am not fighting about it...don't want shit...so why is it HE still seems to get off by telling lie after lie? I just do not get why divorce always turns people into sour, mean, beligerant people?

I mean , move on...I have....so why can't he?
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grrrr! I hear ya! Move on, please!!
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it would be much easier if they would move on...i wondeder if it is just to make them feel better about leaving?
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I mean...I am not going to go aroudn bashing him on the board...I had a really nice time in our 7 1/2 year marriage...I got to have animals...I loved him and I had a good life...but it is time to move forward...why be mean abotu it...I mean...I don't want to be his friend, but get over it...it is done already

ya know
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I know exactly how you feel. My s2bx has used all kinds of tactics to get me back...started with acting pitiful, then begging, then suicidal, then anger (he served the divorce papers, WTF does he want me back then?). He had tarnished my character with his male friends and of course they told their wives. So now, the wives are not encouraged to talk to me coz I am the "bad" one for quitting and not trying.

Sometimes, men and women look at situations but have different interpretations depending on their subjective feelings and experiences. He is angry right now and what he sees maybe totally different from what you see, hence your feeling that he is lying. But maybe in his eyes, he's actually not lying. I'm blabbering...took Vicodin for this toothache and I am in Lalaland.
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