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I've talked to my 4-yo daughter twice since moving out. This marriage is so over, and my STBX is still trying to get her digs in. Now, she won't talk to me when I call the girls (I'm allowed to call at 7pm) BUT she's asked my daughter to ask me where I'm staying (Tuesday night I told her Super 8, and the town, but she had to know the room #!). Today she wants to know where my new apt is - again, thru my daughter. I told her the town, but she wants the address. I don't trust her AT ALL and she's acting really strange, so I'm not telling her. I know she'll find out eventually, but am I wrong to keep it a secret? Why would she need to know?
Che2
If she wants to know then she needs to tell you why and ask you herself. If you are taking or going to take the girls to your new apt then she should know where it is but,again, she needs to ask herself. is she having you followed for some reason??
deleted_user
Maybe she is starting to notice the changes in you. Maybe she just wants to catch you doing something wrong to bring up in court. Who knows. Why not ask her directly and calmly? If she expresses concern, that you believe is sincere, tell her. If not, state your reasons to..just be sure to remain calm.
deleted_user
Maybe she is starting to notice the changes in you. Maybe she just wants to catch you doing something wrong to bring up in court. Who knows. Why not ask her directly and calmly? If she expresses concern, that you believe is sincere, tell her. If not, state your reasons to..just be sure to remain calm.
opk
Thank you both...that's what I'm wondering. I don't THINK I've done/am doing anything wrong. I'm going to the house Sat (staying there with the girls til Sun night). She'll have to see me then - I'll try asking her calmly and se what she says. It just freaked me out...that's how I can tell I don't trust her anymore.
opk
Of course, a good lawyer can make ANYTHING look wrong...:-(
deleted_user
You should also talk to her about NOT dragging the girls into things. Maybe just say "if you want to know something get on the phone and ask me yourself, the girls are not to be used as puppets in this game". That way you are ensuring that she can't go to court and say that you are using the girls. Jade
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