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Why do they need to lash out

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So here it is. I have been nice but I wilol admit that I refused his calls as talking to the ex gets me way toooo emotional. I have texted and recently I sent a email by accident. I got back a nasty email . I know he can be vindictive but now it seems he thinks I planned this all with my family. My ex's last straw was that he asked for cash so he could leave and be happy. I gave him $900 and he went on a one evening drug binge. I would not take him back this time ( I took him back 4 times in the past) yet now he says my family and I planned this all. How can he think that anyone planned this.
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deleted_user
delusional personalities blame all of their problems on others-usually others who plot against them.
dont beat yourself up trying to make sense of it-its like trying to beat back the tide
deleted_user
deleted_user
has to blame someone. don't take it personally. until he can admit his own problems and handle them, it's always going to be someone else's fault. he is sick. have you tried alanon for yourself, great support group for people affected by alcohol or drugs.
deleted_user
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People who are addicts never have to deal with their feelings so they are emotionally immature. This means nothing is their fault or responsibility, it is always someone else's: yours, George Bush is keeping them from getting a job, etc.

You do not have to take his calls. It is OK to take care of yourself in this way.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
I dont take my ex's calls or emails cus of the same thing. I am glad you did not take him back . It is like, $900 and he is now gone.

I wish you luck through this. Stay Strong
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