Women cheat, too.

And who knows why?

Good question and if you look at the discussions, someone brought up that question. Look up "whats up with that ladies"

I would like at this point to ask why don't men and women cheat?? I think it is much easier to answer.

i don't know the answer to this question. no morals or values, no respect for their spouses or themselves. the thrill of attraction. hard hearted.

i was about to say the same thing aborden.....me thinks that sometimes they find a sympathetic ear and are embraced with the words that are all too often become unspoken in a marriage....just personal experience ;)

do me a favor and change the men, to people...
Sure, statistically speaking over 70% of men cheat but also more than 40% of women have as well. That's only of the ones that are telling the truth. So boys and girls, the answer is yes, once a cheater, always a cheater. UNLESS you go to great lengths to restore your marriage and or commitment to the person you cheated on, there can be restitution, forgiveness, and moving on. As long as the ppl involved DEAL with it.

Lynethegal and all,
High moral values and impulse control. I am not sure if it has been a good thing or not...

well, i think i got it all figured out. there are many, many couples i know that DONT cheat. there are, however, a few i know that do. im starting to better understand the Red Flags, but im nowhere near publishing my research LOL.

selfishness, lack of integrity, dishonesty. If you see those....go running for the hills.

Cheat - becaue of selfishness and lack of moral standards. (Regardless of what someone has at home - grass is greener syndrome) Some cheaters are just bored with what they have and want a challenge. Some like the thrill of getting away with something.

I didn't mean to omply what they have at home is boring - just they got bored.

I wondered about the "once a cheater - always a cheater" thing with my EX. Turns out he did it/is doing it but his GF has no clue.

What you have to decide is how long you are willing to put up with it. How hard do you want to fight for this person? In the long run - if the cheater stops - will you ever be able to trust again? Are you able to forgive the cheater and the cheating? Are other areas of your life (kids, career, friendships, family relationships) suffering because you are so invested in "fixing" the cheater?

BIG HUGS for you.

jtgpp...i was to naive to see red flags.....i always live through the heart...trust is the key...everyone i meet has my trust. i believe in starting from the top.....it is up to the other to choose to climb down. many tell me it is one of my major faults....i respectively disagree.

Barney,

I am sort of the same way; everyone starts out with a little piece of trust, and it builds over time. I will trust someone until they give me a reason not to trust them anymore.

Also, could you please clarify your post? I'm not sure what you meant as far as your response to JT's reply.

I used to like everyone I meet until they give me a reason not to. I learned from my stbx to look for a reason first before I start to like someone. I think it was a strength of mine to be open to people but it has caused me a lot of grief.

ooops....that was my bad......i meant the response to tups "red flag" post.......

mine cheated b/c his internal mantra was ...there may always be greener grasses..I needn no one else I can take care of my needs alone. Can't compete with that.... Want to start a red flags thread.

mine cheated because her "true" love happened to whisper the right words she wanted her when ever we couldn't agree on double coupon day.