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why do I feel this way??

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My ex-husband is 34 years old, barely a month after our divorce was finalized, he got a 21 year old girl pregnant. She already had one child, which isn't two yet and just last week his new bouncing baby boy was born...We have two girls together and I have sole phyiscal custody. My ex was begging me up until the day we signed the papers to get back together, so I am so confused/upset that he could move on so quickly afterwards, and expecially with a young girl. Why do I feel so angry towards him and have no desire to ever see his new baby??
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You are probably angry because his words didnt' match his actions.

Do you have to see the new baby?
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Some people just cannot stand to be alone, so they unwisely jump from one relationship to the next.

I see no earthly reason why you should want to his new baby.

Likely you are angry because the divorce was very hard for you, and he is making it look easy. He will more than likely regret his actions ere long.
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The man you once loved left you for ow and had a baby with her, you have every right to feel angry. He did not do a kind thing to you and to honest if I was in your shoes I want kill the sob.
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My X cannot be alone-Some people can't-If he had not knocked her up I doubt he would have stayed with her and you would not had had to deal with anything-but the next OW.
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Whatever the circumstances leading up to your separation/divorce, you have a relationship to grieve for and a man you once loved to grieve for...these feelings are hard enough to go through without the complication of another woman and a new baby to contend with!
Someday, for the sake of yr children (presuming yr ex has contact with yr two children) you will have to meet his new child but cross that bridge when you come to it!
Take your time to get yr head round it, yr under enough pressure right now!
I feel for you and am thinking of you
((((((((hugs))))))))
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