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Last night my middle son excitedly told my stbx that I quit smoking now and haven't smoked since Sunday. His reply was that HE DOES NOT CARE!So my son asked him if he would rather they be around cigarette smoke every now and then. I mostly smoke outside. Then he asked his father when he plans on quitting. Stbx told him he did, but didn't say when. I will find that out later when they get home from their father.
But if they told me their father quit I would say good for him. No reason to be so negative towards the children.
But if they told me their father quit I would say good for him. No reason to be so negative towards the children.
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My situation is quite different from yours but I think people say hurtful things just out of anger and with out thinking. Hopefully he will learn that putting you down just makes him look smaller in his kids eyes.
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I am sorry. I don't get that part either.
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My stbx is just plain nasty to me and the girls now a days. Negative about so much in life....she used to be so optimistic and loving...what happened.
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it is good that you keep assuring your kids and also talking "not bad" about their idiot father. he's clearly jealous of you and the kids' optimistic viewpoints of your better health and theirs too. you're making a serious life changing event happen that your kids see you conquer something and overcome something that is harmful to someone they love. good for you! good for your kids for wanting to share your accomplishment. I too, always say good things around kids about mom if they talk about her. mostly though, they don't have squat to say about her since she's never around.
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I am so sorry that your STBX is being so "negative" about things. HE should NEVER say ANYTHING negative about you to them or ANYWHERE that the kids can hear it. I am SO sorry that you & your kids have to go through this. Just shows that your STBX is SELF-ABSORBED, SELF-CENTERED & SELFISH. HE needs to start thinking & putting the KIDS first, NOT himself.... ((((((((Ginny)))) "Keep Your Chin UP!~!" I'm here if you need to talk!~!
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my stbx says some of the most amazingly insensitive things in front of our child. he can't seem to grasp that this is shaping her future relationships. it makes me so sad. it is good that you just care for your children. i hope that their father will change and grow, too.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
