Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I know that this is a place to share feelings and get support for hard times. We are all looking to find some answer, or at least validate our feelings so that we do not feel so crazy.
What I don't understand are topics where the X is bashed, or wish ill will towards them, or post that they are happy and exstatic that something bad happened to their X.
I am not directing this towards people sharing how stbx makes them feel, or hoping that an injustice is made right.
Justice is right, revenge is wrong.
Everyone has problems. Some people have no control over the road that they let there emotions, and not logic, lead them. Some people are just lost and will never find their way.
I find these types of topics unhealthy. How can you move on, heal and get free if you get satisfaction out of someone that you once had feelings for gets hurt, or has something bad happen to them? My stbx has done some very bad things to me, but I do not hope her ill will.
Maybe people are just venting and I don't understand or just can't relate. I have just as much reason to hate my stbx as anyone else, but I do not wish her to continue to suffer. I do wish her a happy life, but it will be a life without me.
Just my 2 cents. All comments welcome.
What I don't understand are topics where the X is bashed, or wish ill will towards them, or post that they are happy and exstatic that something bad happened to their X.
I am not directing this towards people sharing how stbx makes them feel, or hoping that an injustice is made right.
Justice is right, revenge is wrong.
Everyone has problems. Some people have no control over the road that they let there emotions, and not logic, lead them. Some people are just lost and will never find their way.
I find these types of topics unhealthy. How can you move on, heal and get free if you get satisfaction out of someone that you once had feelings for gets hurt, or has something bad happen to them? My stbx has done some very bad things to me, but I do not hope her ill will.
Maybe people are just venting and I don't understand or just can't relate. I have just as much reason to hate my stbx as anyone else, but I do not wish her to continue to suffer. I do wish her a happy life, but it will be a life without me.
Just my 2 cents. All comments welcome.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I do wish an STD on my husband IF he has been cheating. I'm going to admit that I do wish this often. :)
I think that many people on this site have been hurt by poeple that had complete control over thier actions. They made choices that were hurtful..sometimes in a profound way.
Some of the ill wishing is venting. Some of it is wanting the person who did damage to understand, at least on some level, the damage that was done.
What goes around comes around for a reason.
I don't really care if my ex has a happy life or not. His life is no longer my responsibility and it will be whatever he makes it.
Thats why I posted this. I see things that are not productive to healing.
Che,
I believe that what comes around goes around. There are consequences for your actions. I believe that people need to pay for those consequences. Some of what I see goes beyond this.
I know that there is a fine line, and emotions can blur that line. I am talking mostly about difference in healthy, and unhealthy thoughts. The differnece between wanting justice vs. revenge.
Just wanted to throw out some food for thought.
Being angry and expressing your feelings is fine. They are your feelings right or wrong. No one can tell you how you should feel. You feel what you feel.
kidding..kind of :)
*** this is also a test to see if I changed my avatar.... trying to figure that out tonite!
Again I don't wish for him to come to any physical harm...but a taste of a little bit of what he dished out for me AND his two children would be nice. I also hope that this new child is taken from them and put with someone who can actually act in a responsible manner...this is my children's little brother or sister and doesn't have even ONE good parent.