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We were together for 21 years. 6 months ago he said he was unhappy. He moved out and made my 7 year old son's and my life hell. We are now divorced, but living in same house until my job comes through and I can get a place of my own for my son and I. Last night we had a fight, same old story, when I talk he looks away and watches tv. He dictates what we are "allowed" to talk about, if the subject isn't what he wants to talk about he walks out. If he wants to talk, I am expected to jump to attention. It then leads to him calling me stupid, unbelievable, out of control, drama queen, etc.
He says things to me to intentionally hurt me, I push him in the chest and he threatens to call for police. Is this toxic? It is a no win situation. I wake up feeling pathetic. Help.
He says things to me to intentionally hurt me, I push him in the chest and he threatens to call for police. Is this toxic? It is a no win situation. I wake up feeling pathetic. Help.
deleted_user
My story is so similar. We were 27 years and he wants to have his girlfriend and stay in our home and act like all is well. He knows how to push my buttons and how to control me and I am miserable. I wish I could help you in some way.
Seashells1
Toxic is one word. Abusive and manipulative are a couple of other words that come to mind. Just remember, children learn what they see. You don't want your son thinking that this is a normal relationship. You are not stupid, and no one has the right to call you that.
deleted_user
My husband started to act a bit that way after he told me there might be someone else. I know he was looking for an excuse to justify what he had done. How could he possibly be the bad guy in the situation? You need to remove your child from this situation. It is abuse. You need also to remove yourself from this situation to save yourself. He doesn't like the situation he is in. He is angry and he wants you to hurt more than he does. I think my husband was trying to do the same thing to me and I left.
deleted_user
I've been stuck in the house for a year with the stbx. I have made a genours offer to her and she won't take it.It is miserable living in the house together...we all would be so much better off in different households. Hugs to you!
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