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OK, I know the friends that were hers before the marriage and mine are ours to keep. no brainer.
the married couple friends we met over teh years, she's seemed to lay claim to. although, I know on the surface they're all nice to her, but really can't stand her. they tell me in so many ways.
anyhow, some mutual "friends" of ours is having their annual halloween party on Sat. I was invited as was she.
I rsvp'd as I was going.
last night the EX asked me if I were going to "her" friends' party. I said, well, no, I am going to MY friends party. so I guess we'll see each other there. she said, what if I bring my boyfriend? I said, well, two weeks since the finality of our divorce and 12 years of being friends with these people, I think it'd be a wonderful idea. I hope you do meet him so I can formally introduce myself and tell him thank you for taking you away from me.
Nevertheless, I am now thinking absed on the ex commenting "they only invited you because they thought was too new not to".
Although I KNOW they probably didn't want to invite her but did, they clearly did not say anything bad to her about me. There probably are some but the ones hosting the party, I know are not in her corner like she thinks.
My question, should I put this totally behind me, abandon friends I've made throughout my marriage, solely because she doesn't want to see me be happy for some reason, or hang onto our friends we've had for all these years, that there are significant friendships here?
the married couple friends we met over teh years, she's seemed to lay claim to. although, I know on the surface they're all nice to her, but really can't stand her. they tell me in so many ways.
anyhow, some mutual "friends" of ours is having their annual halloween party on Sat. I was invited as was she.
I rsvp'd as I was going.
last night the EX asked me if I were going to "her" friends' party. I said, well, no, I am going to MY friends party. so I guess we'll see each other there. she said, what if I bring my boyfriend? I said, well, two weeks since the finality of our divorce and 12 years of being friends with these people, I think it'd be a wonderful idea. I hope you do meet him so I can formally introduce myself and tell him thank you for taking you away from me.
Nevertheless, I am now thinking absed on the ex commenting "they only invited you because they thought was too new not to".
Although I KNOW they probably didn't want to invite her but did, they clearly did not say anything bad to her about me. There probably are some but the ones hosting the party, I know are not in her corner like she thinks.
My question, should I put this totally behind me, abandon friends I've made throughout my marriage, solely because she doesn't want to see me be happy for some reason, or hang onto our friends we've had for all these years, that there are significant friendships here?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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Has anyone tried these supplements? Do they give MGers more quality of life by improving memory and overall well being?Thanks!Barbel
I hope not one mutual friend is in anyone's corner really. I think that each mutual friend should be a friend to each one of you. I would not give up my friends, unless they are not really that important to you.
I do not think I could handle going to functions with my ex, but I am not at the same point as you. If you can handle it go for it. I wouldn't let her claim your friends, and put them in her corner. You may have already lost part of you when you married; why lose more through a divorce.
Thanks for the advice everyone