
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
He left, but did not want to divorce just a settlement of our assets. Made me buy him out on the home. Didn't want the divorce, for tax and insurance reason is my guess. How's that?
After much harassment and abuse from him.
He pushed.. and I just said one day; "let's just end this now".
Took him by surprise.. but that was it..
I let him file.. and do all the initial stuff.. and I paid thru my teeth for the divorce.
Got my freedom..and getting my life back slowly....best thing I could of done for me and my little girls.
was/is working on the road and we were drifting apart. I was clear about her job not being the problem just her treatment of me. She deinied the distance between us meant anything called less and less, lied more and more.
I had brought up divorce because she did not really give the relationship a try. She thought being present in the relationship was enough. She thought doing things that I liked that made me feel appreciated were a struggle for her.
After years of lying and small attempts at trying she started to admit some of the things that were happening on the road. She created a new relationship and wanted to keep in contact with him and stay on the road. She said maybe a seperation would be sufficent and we just needed some time apart.
I said we live in 2 different states, barely talk and you have a boyfriend...we are already seperated! So I asked if she would contest a divorce and she said no.
I may have asked for it but her actions tell me it's what she wanted all along.
It's all still very fresh so sometimes I feel sad. I am confident I am dong the right thing and that a better life for me exists from the moment I realistically looked at her actions and not what she was saying.
I am coping by working on my dreams, therapy, DS, and working out. I try not to think about her and what she is doing and I keep remembering that I do not want a life with someone that selfish or inconsiderate. She thinks we may get back together one day but those are more empty words. Based on her actions I have told her we were over and I cannot continue with her so now I rebuild better and stronger.
So dont beat yourself up over it. Move on and enjoy your life.
Oddly enough we are better now. Trying to build a healthy platonic relationship so that we can function as a parenting team to raise our sons.