I can't be friends at the moment, I am too hurt and angry. I have a son with him, so hope things improve in the future, but if I didn't have the son with him, wouldn't want to ever see him again!!!

I have become friends with a couple of exes but it was never right away, it took time to heal the pain. Once I had moved on to the point where I was not thinking about that person on a daily basis, then I was able to do it if the relationship had ended without the trauma of infidelity or something else major.

I am friends with most of my ex's which everyone sees as weird, now I've never been married or anything, but any guy I've dated I more than likely still keep in touch with. It can be a sore spot in new relationships but overall I like it.

The 2 relationships that I didn't want to end the most have resulted in the best friendships out of any of them. The first was a guy I dated in High School for 2 years and we were great together, all our friends still think we should get back together. The second was the first guy I dated in college. The second one was the hardest to get back to a friendship and maintain it, I lived with him, we were together every single day for geez, I don't even know how long because we were on and off for so long.

But in both cases it was so difficult, because even after we broke up, we had to see each other every day, our classes brought us together. I cried in every class meeting that we shared....which in high school was everyday, thankfully, in college it was only every other day (Not that that kept me from crying in between).

But it was hard. And in each case, we kinda wound up falling back into the old routine, which only caused me to get hurt all over again when it came time to call it quits again.

I still think about that last one all the time. He's always on my mind. I was just so close to him and his family. I think it's harder to completely cut someone out of your life that knows so much about you, unless there is an absolute good reason. But I mean, if you didn't want out of the relationship in the first place, then it's really really difficult to let it go.

The easiest thing for me was to just do whatever I felt like. I made it clear to them that while I understood that there had to be boundaries on affection and all of that, that I would still continue to show them the same amount of affection that I would to any of my guy friends. (I kiss them all on the cheek and insist on hugs before parting.) I always make my feelings very clear to them. I don't know. I've used several different tactics, if any of this is helpful, or you'd like to know more about my experience with it, just message me, I think this has gotten long enough!!!!

I never had an ex before now and I don't think I will get to a stage where we will be able to speak.

My former husband (not recent ex) and I are very good friends. We divorced after 25+ years of marriage. It was NOT a vicious, vile divorce at all. We have become good friends since our son is now going through a divorce. I personally believe t hat parents should always be there for their children.

My recent ex, well we have nothing to keep any line of communication open for. In fact there isn't a single thing I have to say to him.

I think we will be( we are still technically married), once we had the big talk and said yes this marriage must end we started getting along so much better! Its crazy, I'm happy to see him as opposed to ugh why is he always hoovering around.

We are making jokes, my seizures have improved(the weight of the world was lifted when he said he agreed and the stress went away) and above all we have been adult enough to say hey you're a good person, I'm a good person, I love to hang with you but we were not meant to be married. Not sure what else to say, we just admitted that while we made great friends we made a living hell of a marriage, we both want the other to be happy and we'll be there for the other always. STBX even said if in 10yrs we are still both single we should have a kid together, lol. The truth will set you free, now that I don't have to pretend, I am just over the moon I can enjoy a movie with him and all is good.

Hard question. STBX and I were not friend material when we were married-nothing in common. He was not nice to me.

Now he is calling, sometimes several times a day. Sometimes it is Valid and Business Related...Mostly it is NOT.

He comes from a family that does Friendly Divorces and remains lifetime friends.

I know that this man plays mind games. I have 22 years of experience with it. I am trying to walk a tight rope between caution-waiting for that axe to drop and find out What he is Looking For...and just plain feeling Sorry for Him.

He left. He has made his choices and chased his dreams. Now it is my turn.

I am more willing to keep it Friendly...but it is because I can't stand to live with the Hate and Bitterness. That just doesn't suit me.

Long answer for a short question, but nothing is simple.

I am trying to be on friendly terms with my STBX, it is still hard at times because things are still so new. However, I have some friends who have been able to remain friends with their Ex's to the point where the new wife and the ex wife actually go and do things together. Additionally, my STBX's parent's are divorced, but still friends. I guess for some it works.

I would not say I am really good friends with my 1st ex. She is the mother of my son and we work together to make sure he is taken care of. But when it comes to personal life we dont talk about much. Her life is hers and mine is mine. We dont fight about anything, but we dont get involed with each others life.

Now the 2nd stbx is a total different story!

I doubt I'll ever be friends with x. He's just done too much. He's abandoned his children in favor of his girlfriend (has only exercised visitation once in 10 months and NEVER an overnight!) He cheated on me and still lies about it and blames me for the divorce (she's the one who filed mentality). He's tried to cheat me out of thousands and thousands of dollars in settlement money...by lying, making up loans to family members, disappearing assets, claiming every tool on his farm was a gift along with several pieces of expensive equipment! The emotional abuse (though I feel at fault for this for putting up with it for so long...the man would scream at me for buying our kids new clothes when they needed it!) that he put me through during our marriage by controlling our money...telling others how horrible I was managing it and all I did was spend it and the drinking and the drugs. How could I ever be friends with him? I will however forgive him and be civil to him IF I ever see him (which I doubt) AFTER all of this nightmare that he's caused is completely over.

I'd like to be amicable someday. She's too bitter and turned super duper evil on me.
Solely in my opinion as I squeaked clean during the marriage and through the divorce.
Everyone saw who she was.
A liar and a cheat, and a story teller.
So, I cannot be around her physically at all, whatsoever in limited fashion. All brought on by her doing. Buh Bye.

No this will never happen. After what he did for money.. never never never.. I have not seen my son in 13 months. I have not spoken to him in 4 months why becasue my stbx is a control freak... he planned this well and has managed to eradicate me from my son's life... never never never....

have no interest in being her friend...wish i never had to see her again, but we have two kids...my kids will one day know/ understand full story...they will then decide and hopefully understand that i will not attend any function where she is present, not for divorcing me, but for utterly trying to destroy me

We are trying to be friends, for daughter's sake, but it is hard...

There are certain subjects we avoid, and neither of us are in a relationship right now, I'm sure things will change if we do find others. He was mad when he knew I was meeting someone for a beer...

Hey, one man's trash is another man's treasure!!!

I can never see him, let alone be friends with him. He wants to be friends but due to the circumstances of the breakup that cannot be possible.

My daughter and I nearly have panic attacks thinking about running into him or him and the OW (family member). He was emotionally abusive to my daughter to the point where she considered suicide.

Friends, I don't think so.