
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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It's been six months since he said he wanted a divorce. It seems like yesterday. Since then it has been such an emotional roller coaster. I say that I'm trying to move one, but I'm scared that I'm not actually doing so. I still love him very much and miss him even though I really have few reasons to do so. In some ways he sends me signals that tell me he still really cares about me, then other times he makes it clear we are forver through. And the being friends thing seems nice, but beyond impossible. He hasn't filed anything, and I refuse to since he chose this course over counseling for us.
Lately every night I dream about him, and each time he breaks my heart. But in my dreams I go like psycho bitch on him. Maybe I'm not dealing enough with my anger so I am expressing it in my dreams. I don't know. One of my friends recently told me that I sound like I hate him. In some ways I do. Can I actually hate and love him at the same time?
Should I be this confused six months later? Does anyone have a suggestion on dealing with everything?
Lately every night I dream about him, and each time he breaks my heart. But in my dreams I go like psycho bitch on him. Maybe I'm not dealing enough with my anger so I am expressing it in my dreams. I don't know. One of my friends recently told me that I sound like I hate him. In some ways I do. Can I actually hate and love him at the same time?
Should I be this confused six months later? Does anyone have a suggestion on dealing with everything?
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It does sound like your unconscious is expressing a lot of anger at him - which is normal. Maybe you need to find some quiet moments and try to feel the anger while you are awake. I've been surprised at the feelings that have turned up in my dreams. I really think it is a way my mind has of trying to get me to see what I've been denying during the day.
Have you tried counseling for yourself? I've have found individual counseling to be a great source of help in getting through this process. Good luck.