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where do i start?

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My brother died may 06. this was so sudden and looking back at it now i have been petrified of loosing anyone close to me.

as a result i pushed my husband away and eventually left him a few months ago.

i am now in another relationship but am so confused as i think i may have made a huge mistake.

i have hurt him so much and hate myself for what i have done i just dont know what to do.

i found a site that he goes on and read what he wrote about me, he doesnt even know how he feels about me anymore, i have distroyed what we had but i think i want it back.

i talked to my dad yesterday about it and he asked me a question that really made me think 'if you could turn the clock back 6 months what would you do?' and i answered never have left my husband.

I have been in touch with my grief counsellor again to resume sessions and i have signed up for relate, marriage counselling to figure out what to do.

has anyone been in a similar position? how can i win him back? any advice no matter how straight or blunt i would be very greatful for. i need to hear it.

Im so confused.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Could you possibly write him a letter? I am big into writing letters...it's easier than talking because there is no fighting that can occur while writing a letter. Tell him why you did what you did...tell him you realize your mistake...spill your guts...and ask him for a second chance. What do you have to lose??? Honesty is the best policy...that's what my mom always told me when I was growing up... I try to live by those words.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I dont think he would have me back. thats what hurts the most.

i tried to make the relationship i am in now work but it just doesnt feel like it should and i cant see a future in it because i am always thinking of my husband, i hate hurting people.

Im such a mess i dont know what to do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
shamlessly bumping, desperate for advice.
julik
julik
Speak from your heart - walk through the fear of rejection. If it's not too late, he reach out to you, if it is, what have you lost, except to know that you've apologized and attempted to offer to rebuild with him. Our fear just hangs us up too many times when it comes to taking chances with rejection.
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