I am 50 years old. My kids are grown, I live in a town where I don't know anyone, and my husband of 26 years doesn't wish to married anymore. I only have a couple of few close friends that live far from where I am. I feel so lost and don't know where to turn or even how to make new friends. At this point I am being comforted by my children, going to dinner and hanging out with them, and my long distant friends, through phone calls. I do work full time and my co-workers have been great, but I hate to drag them into my personel world too much. I would like to make some new friends but am not sure how to go about it. I am seeing a counselor and that seems to be helpful. When I do go out I feel that I am only there in body and not with my heart. It's been 3 weeks since my husband moved out and he seems to have moved on with no emotional ramifications other than a small amount of guilt. What emotions does the leaver have? I am not sure how to be single or how to date or where to even find someone to date. Not that I want to date at this time, but in the future how does a female my age even find a compatible date? I am not sure even what my interests are given the fact that I have been so wrapped up with kids, husband and aging parents. i feel like I just need to figure this out but am not sure how to go about it. Does anyone have suggestions? I think I need to get out of my fog before I can be truly engaged with others. Just looking for some answers for when the time is right. Hopefully this pain I am in will go away at some point. This experience has made me a more compassionate person towards others who are facing struggles. Thanks in advance for any advice.
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