Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
First I thought it was an affair with a 32 year old woman, but I soon realized that if there was a woman she was used as a cover to force me to leave the marriage.
For many years I've suspected my husband to be gay and in the closet. He hated intimacy and sex and never bothered with it.
When we me I was an extremely attractive woman but grew fat after years of being ignored and neglected.
Now that I'm divorced from him, I've lost weight and looking wonderful again.
I read your stories and feel your pain, but sometimes I feel envious that I wished my husband did have an affair with a woman. At least I would have had a chance.
Over the years he made up one excuse up after another why he wasn't interested in me. My self-esteem eroded to minus zero.
I've had the gift of time to reflect and realize that the problem wasn't me.... BUT HIM! I was an idiot to believe everything he told me but I'm slowly buidling a new life for myself.
There are days when I feel in the dumps but there are also moments when I feel such freedom and joy. No longer do I feel like the drudge I allowed him to make me feel about myself.
My femininity and womanhood I am finally allowing to come out and blossom and it scares me but also makes me feel so happy and good about my new life.
Those of you who have lived with a gay closeted man will know what I'm writing about.
Good luck to all of us.
Alexandria
For many years I've suspected my husband to be gay and in the closet. He hated intimacy and sex and never bothered with it.
When we me I was an extremely attractive woman but grew fat after years of being ignored and neglected.
Now that I'm divorced from him, I've lost weight and looking wonderful again.
I read your stories and feel your pain, but sometimes I feel envious that I wished my husband did have an affair with a woman. At least I would have had a chance.
Over the years he made up one excuse up after another why he wasn't interested in me. My self-esteem eroded to minus zero.
I've had the gift of time to reflect and realize that the problem wasn't me.... BUT HIM! I was an idiot to believe everything he told me but I'm slowly buidling a new life for myself.
There are days when I feel in the dumps but there are also moments when I feel such freedom and joy. No longer do I feel like the drudge I allowed him to make me feel about myself.
My femininity and womanhood I am finally allowing to come out and blossom and it scares me but also makes me feel so happy and good about my new life.
Those of you who have lived with a gay closeted man will know what I'm writing about.
Good luck to all of us.
Alexandria
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I'm starting to realize my ex did what he had to do to fit into a heterosexual world and didn't mean to hurt me. I honestly believe that he thought being married to me may help him become straight. I could be wrong about it and maybe he just used me as a cover for his career and social acceptance.
The further away I am from this marriage the more I am accepting that this marriage happened because he was afraid and I admired him because he allowed me to lean on him for a time. We were both fragile people when we met.
I do wish him the best.
It feels so good not to feel so much anger and hatred towards him.
Alexandria
For the longest time I felt sorry for myself. Finally I realized, it's not ME who needs pity, it's him. He will live his life hiding from the truth, putting on a false front for the world. We however have been freed from a life of lies. Feel empowered!
But he does appear to be genuinely "head-over-heels" in love with OW.
So now I'm at the point where I think it's something in between. Not that he's gay, but that I'm just not his "type". He goes for petite, thin women. I'm average height, but definitely not thin. He always said my breasts were too big.
The end result is probably pretty close to what it would be if he really were gay. He wasn't any more attracted to me than I would be to another woman.
I'm still not sure how to recover my self esteem. I don't feel like a sexy woman, I don't even feel like a WOMAN half the time lately. I feel like a COW. It's not a pleasant feeling, and I never felt that way before being with stbx.
In the end, we all create our own happiness or hell. I'm doing everything I can to create an authentic life for myself.
Alexandria