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When your Ex is gay & hiding in the closet

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First I thought it was an affair with a 32 year old woman, but I soon realized that if there was a woman she was used as a cover to force me to leave the marriage.
For many years I've suspected my husband to be gay and in the closet. He hated intimacy and sex and never bothered with it.
When we me I was an extremely attractive woman but grew fat after years of being ignored and neglected.
Now that I'm divorced from him, I've lost weight and looking wonderful again.
I read your stories and feel your pain, but sometimes I feel envious that I wished my husband did have an affair with a woman. At least I would have had a chance.
Over the years he made up one excuse up after another why he wasn't interested in me. My self-esteem eroded to minus zero.
I've had the gift of time to reflect and realize that the problem wasn't me.... BUT HIM! I was an idiot to believe everything he told me but I'm slowly buidling a new life for myself.
There are days when I feel in the dumps but there are also moments when I feel such freedom and joy. No longer do I feel like the drudge I allowed him to make me feel about myself.
My femininity and womanhood I am finally allowing to come out and blossom and it scares me but also makes me feel so happy and good about my new life.
Those of you who have lived with a gay closeted man will know what I'm writing about.
Good luck to all of us.
Alexandria
For many years I've suspected my husband to be gay and in the closet. He hated intimacy and sex and never bothered with it.
When we me I was an extremely attractive woman but grew fat after years of being ignored and neglected.
Now that I'm divorced from him, I've lost weight and looking wonderful again.
I read your stories and feel your pain, but sometimes I feel envious that I wished my husband did have an affair with a woman. At least I would have had a chance.
Over the years he made up one excuse up after another why he wasn't interested in me. My self-esteem eroded to minus zero.
I've had the gift of time to reflect and realize that the problem wasn't me.... BUT HIM! I was an idiot to believe everything he told me but I'm slowly buidling a new life for myself.
There are days when I feel in the dumps but there are also moments when I feel such freedom and joy. No longer do I feel like the drudge I allowed him to make me feel about myself.
My femininity and womanhood I am finally allowing to come out and blossom and it scares me but also makes me feel so happy and good about my new life.
Those of you who have lived with a gay closeted man will know what I'm writing about.
Good luck to all of us.
Alexandria
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So now I'm at the point where I think it's something in between. Not that he's gay, but that I'm just not his "type". He goes for petite, thin women. I'm average height, but definitely not thin. He always said my breasts were too big.
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