Oh I think you're ready and when you're ready then you should go, just keep it light, have fun but not too serious and probly best to keep it from the ex for now

Only you know what your boundaries are. Once you are comfotable and have opportunity then it would be fine to go out. proceed at your own speed.

I suggest having all divorce issues resolved first. Know you are okay with you before getting too serious I would guess.

My lawyer said dating during divorce should be discreet. My husband didn't get that lecture obviously.

I would like to hook up with someone deep and meaningful but if that doesn't show up....light is good. I would like to get back there. i haven't dated in 15 years. My husband has been too angry to conect with for the past year and a half....I am so ready to live again!

Strange though how men my age look...old. Maybe i am too.

lol...the ones my age are all old looking too. I have to look in the mirror to remind myself i have aged also. Because of that I may never be ready to date.

Divorce has been over since feb 2006, and i have had enough time to accept that alone isnt all that bad.

Funny how life flies by when you are married. You dont notice the aging so much.

My stbx has already started dating and it has only been six weeks since our sepration. I am so mad right now. I want to just slap him and his slut

That is a really hard one, but I have to agree with zoot. I guess the most important thing is too not get to serious. Of course the legal stuff should be out of the way, and setting boundaries is crutial. One of the problems is "other people" have their own opinions about when you should start dating again, especially when you have kids, and this can make things very confusing, and could potentially give you a bad rep, so one must be careful.

The way I see it is, if I was a man, starting sooner than later wouldn't be so bad, and I say the heck with that, if it would be ok for them, then it is ok for me! I can take it at my own speed.

Most people never agree with how I work through those matters and I often seem to face the same thing over again, but I start dating with limited involvement.

Every person is different and everyone has their own opinions about what is "right" about dating... it's the never ending argument.
I know for myself, I want to date, but then again I don't. But a few months ago I figured out that getting to know a certain person (and he knows who he is) from DS helped "distract" me from the misery I was in, so it is obviously a good thing.
AND to top it off we're a bit of a distance from each other so it works out well coz you get to know someone but you still have the single "me" time to get yourself together emotionally etc.

So I'm not condoning or condemning online relationships, it's not for everyone, but it is working for me, and that's really the name of the game, to make yourself happy and to get you through rough patches.

Good question. I haven't even gone to a lawyer, have contacted one, just waiting for the initial appt. I would just like the company of a nice male, nice dinner, glass of wine and conversation. My stbx found someone who he sees when he travels for work...very convenient. He gets the "me" time (which he begrudged me of for so long) and he gets to be with her for about a week at a time. So what I want is not really dating...just companionship. I like the idea of meeting someone on DS..just like Vegasgal. (lucky you) Funny, my stbx said he wanted out of the marriage while we were both attractive...I never thought about that...

This has been discussed a lot on this group. I know for me it was really scary, still is. Ready or not I got back out there pretty quick. I figured I had not dated in 19 years I better figure this out and how it has changed. I think as long as you are honest to yourself and any prospective date where you are and what you are looking for in a relationship at this point it is fine to get back out and begin building new social circles.

I think that whenever you want a date, you should go. However, be prepared to have emotions. It ca be very easy to have "feelings" for someone when you are tired of being alone.

On any level of dating, the first step should be taken with a little caution. You saound like you are ready to try.

I concur with the others. You will know when you are ready. I agree that it is a very scarey thing for a lot of us who were in long relationships. I have only been on one date so far and I was scared to death. But, thankfully, it turned out ok. My problem is finding suitable men to date!

I waited until my divorce was final. But that was a personal choice due to not wanting to commit adultery while still being married. Weird I know. But only start dating when you think you are mentally, physically and emotionally ready.

And I have to agree a lot of men are age do look old, not all but most. Of course looking at those a little younger doesn't hurt either. (snickers) Good luck, happy hunting and be safe.

Things seem a little different now. You meet someone on-line, you meet at a coffee shop sometimes, and then if you both like each other you go to dinner. It is a little strange, from being a much younger girl and meeting guys while I was out dancing with friends.
Some things are the same, many guys out there for one thing and not interested in a relationship (sorry guys), I am sure they can say that about girls who are psycho, too.
Just don't be naiive, people do lie and get ready to try to cut through some of it to get to the truth.
Just my humble suggestion.

Oh yeah. men lie to get laid.

Hmm.

I remember.

Men lie when you are married to them too. Oh it is so fun to be a woman.

I am grateful that I met some men on DS that do not appear to be so shallow. If they exsist on DS there must be one here in New Orleans that is datable.