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when to fold

keepthehope
keepthehope
It all comes to a point where you have to ultimately have to fold. I have been fighting in what I believe in but she doesn't believe in it anymore. Keepthehope is losing hope :( The person I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with has given up and now I need to find the strength to do the same. It hurts like hell.......
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yea, I know how this goes. It will just take time. It has taken me some time and things are starting to feel and look positive today. Just give it time and keep yourself busy. You'll find a good woman out there for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can only do so much...a relationship/marriage takes two...and if one folds, you simply have no choice. If you have done everything you possibly could to make things work and tried your absolute best...what more can you humanly do?
Do I hurt that my relationship tanked twice? YES! But..I can walk away knowing I put everything I had and everything I am into trying to make it work. He did not reciprocate. I will still hurt, but I can walk away knowing I didn't quit. He did.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but focus on your behaviors and the realization that sometimes, despite your very best efforts, it will never work. If the other person refuses...then the decision is already made.
(((HUGS)))
deleted_user
deleted_user
you sound just like me man...i just love my love too and it really hurts i hope we can stand together and fight through any of this crap
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was always good at folding in our marriage, just cant give my love up without time to find another life and other reasons to keep breathing. Folding now too just slowly and fighting every minute against it. I moved the dream of happy future ahead a few months in my own head, at least until December. By then I should be able to push the dream ahead for even longer term if needed. One step at a time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am with you so much. I folded today. But I am actually happy. I am going to be okay. He is the one that is losing so much. What I was hoping for was a dream that has died.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you can only do what you can do you cant make anyone love you and if you love them you wouldnt want to. there is an old scottish saying that whats for you will not go by you. keep your chin up
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