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I have been living apart from my ex for about a year, but we have been working on things on and off (not very well). About a week ago I found out he has a new gf (of about 1 or 2 weeks).

All year everytime I was almost over him he hounded me and hounded me until I was stupid enough to let him back into my life. And even though I know we shouldn't be together (won't go into that!) I find the idea of him having a new gf is tearing me apart.

Actually I don't know what to think anymore. To tell the truth I think I am in shock. I can't eat, I want to sleep all day, I feel like I am going to be sick all the time, weepy etc.

Anyone have any ideas of what I can do to get on with my life? I am moving in two months, fresh start and all that, but at the moment I just sit there and do nothing.
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Attorney, counseling and support here at DS and time.
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on the beach you seem to have all the answers. but they are so cold and clinical.

no offense but do you have a heart?
deleted_user
deleted_user
hey zoe, you sound like me...i don't want him but don't want anyone else to have him either. it so sucks!!!!! guess what it really means is that they have moved on without us. It's going to be ok, really it is...I know you've probably have heard that before, but it's TRUE! Let your son be the focus and enjoy the moments of his childhood. DS is a wonderful place for suppport...keep in touch!
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Valium, alcohol, and frivolous sex. If you think I'm kidding, try it and see how much better you feel. Its been a year and you're still feeling like this? You've had too much contact with him. Call him and tell him "no more contact" right after you take a valium. Good luck.
solongbye
solongbye
I agree with onthebeach, time away, really apart is probably one of the biggest factors in your healing process. Stay here and seek out others who have experienced the same. Good luck to you.
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stay with us for support until you move and get settled, things hopefully will have started to get better for you. we are all helping each other heal. when you get settled you can tell us all the wonderful new things going on in your life. stick with us, hopefully it will be supportive and encouraging.
deleted_user
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Do not persist in this during the holidays. Do you have family or friends you can be around. If not, strangers will do!

By the way, I am thunderstruck at the rudeness of freetofly's unhelpful remark.
deleted_user
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I agree with onthebeach and CVGL. It seems that your husband has moved on and now it's time for you to do the same. Get a lawyer, get some counseling and in time you will fell a hell of alot better about yourself and your life. Then you will wonder why you spent so much time TRYING to make this work.
As for freetofly, "do you have a heart?" That really is rude.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with the lawyer and counseling. But especially that you should break off contact with him.

The past 2 weeks, my stbx has finally stopped his constant calling and visiting. He's finally listening to people who tell him to break off contact with me. It has made a huge change in my life. I never realized how much pain and anxiety I was feeling because of his contact and I've felt so much better without his daily "hellos"
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry to read of your pain. My ex had an affair and then finally moved in with gf. The only that helps is TIME. Try to avoid thinking about him, and get involved in something that really interests you. Get some great books, rent some DVDs and shop till you drop. Any girl friends you can turn to?
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