Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was just setting up vision and dental appointments- had to give my stbx's info since it's his insurance... It made me so bloody angry. First of all, because I hate having to use his name and feel associated with him, but more because this all just still feels so wrong. It's like I'm in the twilight zone. I should be able to lean over and say "Honey, what's your social security number?" Instead of having to dig through emails and documents to find his info.
People keep telling me, it's better that this happened, I'll be happier without him, he doesn't care about me anyway- but it still just feels WRONG. Do you actually hit a point where you say "I'm glad this happened?" Cause I can't imagine it. I'm still so frustrated knowing that, according to him, our relationship was getting better and better, our problems were solvable. It will never make any sense to me that you bail on a relationship literally because you don't feel like putting in the small amount of effort required.
I hate him so much for putting me here. I never want to see him again, but I still just want my "loving" husband, as fictional as he apparently was, to come home and hug me and make me grilled cheese.
People keep telling me, it's better that this happened, I'll be happier without him, he doesn't care about me anyway- but it still just feels WRONG. Do you actually hit a point where you say "I'm glad this happened?" Cause I can't imagine it. I'm still so frustrated knowing that, according to him, our relationship was getting better and better, our problems were solvable. It will never make any sense to me that you bail on a relationship literally because you don't feel like putting in the small amount of effort required.
I hate him so much for putting me here. I never want to see him again, but I still just want my "loving" husband, as fictional as he apparently was, to come home and hug me and make me grilled cheese.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
But when I DO remember the BAD, I AM able to say that it IS better alone by CHOICE than in a house of 4. :)
It helps for the time being and then it leaves but I can ALWAYS get it back if I try hard enough.
I'm sure you can too.
Takes time.
I left 2.5 years ago and hopefully it won't take you that long!
But this fantasy started melting away once I realized that he is not the man I thought he was. Not only that, he has completely forgotten me and spends all his time with his new girlfriend that he left me for. And he has not once shown remorse for putting me through such pain and misery and completely abandoning me.
I know it's hard to believe sometimes when people tell us that it will get better and that we are better off without "him". Most times I believe it but like you, sometimes I miss him. Then I wake up and realize I'm missing a man who doesn't exist anymore.
Hugs to you, you'll get through this! We all will :)