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When do you know it's over????

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I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for so long, that i just don't know if this is the right time to get off or not. i am sick of giving 100 percent of myself, and getting nothing in return. My husband goes in spurts....one week he loves me, then the next week he hates me, then the next week he is indifferent to me. It even goes as far as him not sleeping in our bed at night. He will come to bed right around the time that I have to get up in the morning. I am getting to the point that I hate my life. I am so lonely I an't even see straight. The problem is that as soon as I get to the point that I am ready to throw in the towel, he comes around. It is like he has a duel personality.

I know that it doesn't sound bad enough to think about getting out, but there is alot more that is going on, then just those things.

For example he blames me for not having any friends, so he wants to cultivate friendships, which is fine, but I can't do the same, and I have friends....go figure. He gets insecure if I am out with my friends!!!

I really don't know what to do....
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Seek counseling, you may find your answer through a trained person who has no bias to either of you.
Counseler was good for me, although stbx left me.
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hes doing everthing my ex did trust me get out you will be happier. if you stay you will always be miserable.
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I see you are in family therapy zagnut, but it sounds like your husband needs his own therapist.
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tolds like me-i gave myself a time limit-i know i can not live like this forever-but it is not that bad to leave-but he will not get the help we need-but he does not want to leave the house and he does not want me to leave-but he does anything he wants-but when i go out he does not like it if it is too long-but he tells me to go out and have fun-he asks like nothing happened-loves me one day-fights with me the next-acts like i am not even here the next-i do not know what to do myself-the only thing i have done is too get info so if we do get a divorce i know things i want it to work i love him-but i can not do it by myself-try the time limit
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i agree, seek counseling and start building a life for yourself, one that makes you happy doing the things you want to do. i'm not saying get divorced or separated, just start doing things so your happy. your not responsible for anyones happiness but your own. who knows, if your husbands sees this, things may change for him also.
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